# 13 yr old dad???

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**Created:** [February 13, 2009, 6:21pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/13-yr-old-dad/201848 "2009-02-13T18:21:26Z")\
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**Author:** ![Darkstar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@Darkstar](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Darkstar)\
**Post date:** [February 17, 2009, 8:10am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/13-yr-old-dad/201848/28 "2009-02-17T08:10:53Z")

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> [@WTB: tools](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wtb-tools/39629/9):
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> That looks good on paper, but once you have kids, your views will change. And you can deny it on the interweb all you want, but it will happen.
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> If you go and start telling your kids at the age of 8 or so about sex, drugs, how the real world is, etc… you will be denying them of their childhood. The great part of kids is seeing how they see the world without it being all fucked up. You need to teach your kids how to think on their own and make their own decisions instead of following mob mentality and when the time comes for them to really grow up, they will be prepared. I have no idea when the right time for the sex talk is, but I know my 7 year old has a few more years before I even start thinking about it.

What “looks good on paper” is synonymous for “what is right before one lets emotion cloud one’s sensibility”. I would never tell anyone else how to raise their kids, so please don’t let it sound like I am. However, I personally think that “childhood”, and “innocence” and all that crap is highly overrated. I’m 26 and I don’t even remember most of my childhood, aside from cool trips or events or whatever. I certainly don’t remember my innocence or blissful ignorance or any of those emotions. Remember, you’re only a kid for a few years, then you’re an adult for the other 70 years of your life.

I would see my role as a parent to make my kids smart, well-mannered, outgoing, sociable, and as informed as possible, while instilling a good work ethic. This is what will set them up for success for their whole lives. Spoil a kid rotten and they’ll turn out rotten. Neglect them and they’ll have poor self esteem. Shelter them from the realities of life and it will do them no good either.

:dunno:

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