# Divorced: how did you deal with it? \[now with more drama!\] **URL:** \ **Category:** NYSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [February 10, 2010, 3:04am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162 "2010-02-10T03:04:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 18
**Author:** ![Karter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@Karter](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Karter)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:31pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/341 "2010-02-11T18:31:41Z")
> [@burnt\_toast](#): > > hahahaha everyone is so mad. > > cheer up karter. thanks man :burnout: ---
**Author:** ![Karter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e480ec/32.png) [@Karter](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Karter)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:35pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/342 "2010-02-11T18:35:28Z")
> [@vq30de](#): > > Why don’t you spend less time posting worthless shit and get your GED so maybe you can stop sucking at life? Just a thought… > > Ding ding ding! There’s the solution to your problem. Get over this slut and do something productive at once! i took the test last month, where have you been? im waiting on results. ---
**Author:** ![vq30de](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/9dc877/32.png) [@vq30de](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/vq30de)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:38pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/343 "2010-02-11T18:38:00Z")
> [@Just Karter](#): > > i took the test last month, where have you been? im waiting on results. I don’t read your crappy posts, my apologies. Get results, go to school. Fin. ---
**Author:** ![LittleFoot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e9a140/32.png) [@LittleFoot](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/LittleFoot)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:39pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/344 "2010-02-11T18:39:48Z")
I was gonna post but forget it karter wants this locked, its a trainwreck, just lock it please. Thanks deebo and Joe ---
**Author:** ![burnt\_toast](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/burnt_toast/32/7518_2.png) [@burnt\_toast](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/burnt_toast)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:42pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/345 "2010-02-11T18:42:25Z")
quiet down, men are talking. ---
**Author:** ![vq30de](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/9dc877/32.png) [@vq30de](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/vq30de)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:43pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/346 "2010-02-11T18:43:11Z")
> [@LittleFoot](#): > > I was gonna post > but forget it > > karter wants this locked, its a trainwreck, just lock it please. > > Thanks deebo and Joe FUCK I really was looking forward to a cheap laugh ---
**Author:** ![LittleFoot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e9a140/32.png) [@LittleFoot](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/LittleFoot)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:44pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/347 "2010-02-11T18:44:58Z")
> [@vq30de](#): > > FUCK > > I really was looking forward to a cheap laugh heh. not worth it and honestly i dont have to explain myself to anyone here. so im not gonna bother ---
**Author:** ![vq30de](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/9dc877/32.png) [@vq30de](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/vq30de)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:49pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/348 "2010-02-11T18:49:38Z")
> [@LittleFoot](#): > > heh. not worth it > and honestly > i dont have to explain myself to anyone here. so im not gonna bother You’re far less annoying than your ex, even if you take two dicks in one day… ---
**Author:** ![ctspoolintsi](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ctspoolintsi/32/7456_2.png) [@ctspoolintsi](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ctspoolintsi)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 6:50pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/349 "2010-02-11T18:50:00Z")
> [@burnt\_toast](#): > > quiet down, men are talking. that was kind of funny ---
**Author:** ![boosting4me](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/5e9695/32.png) [@boosting4me](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/boosting4me)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:02pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/350 "2010-02-11T19:02:20Z")
rofl :lol: men are talking ---
**Author:** ![Afrank45](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/afrank45/32/5021_2.png) [@Afrank45](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Afrank45)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:17pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/351 "2010-02-11T19:17:34Z")
> [@burnt\_toast](#): > > quiet down, men are talking. :fry: ---
**Author:** ![TradersBASE](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tradersbase/32/5321_2.png) [@TradersBASE](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/TradersBASE)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:25pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/352 "2010-02-11T19:25:07Z")
_Some thoughts after reading all this drama…_ Lust does not = love You can’t think you love someone you just met and be balanced mentally. Work on developing boundaries, it’s a healthy practice. If you have to try and convince em to stay…they aren’t worth keeping. You don’t have to force, beg, plead or bribe to retain true relationship material. As a man…acting emotional won’t bring em back, it only makes you look bad and remind them that they had your balls in their pocket. Desperation won’t attract females, at least not any worth keeping. Drinking or drugs will dull your pain perhaps, but they will make you do some pretty retarded shit and put yourself in harms way. That which doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger! Live, learn and become the best YOU that is possible. The best revenge is living well. Once you stop wondering what they are thinking and focus on YOURSELF and healing internally the recovery goes quickly. GLWS ---
**Author:** ![deebo](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/deebo/32/5218_2.png) [@deebo](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/deebo)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:30pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/353 "2010-02-11T19:30:06Z")
Wrd I was all upset about my ex gf moving away, and then we broke up acted like a baby and got nothing acted like i didnt give a fuck and got everything. There are moments to act like you care, and moments to act like you dont, even if you do I’m at the stage right now of bringing her in… and flicking her away ---
**Author:** ![TradersBASE](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tradersbase/32/5321_2.png) [@TradersBASE](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/TradersBASE)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:33pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/354 "2010-02-11T19:33:27Z")
> [@deebo](#): > > Wrd > I was all upset about my ex gf moving away, and then we broke up > acted like a baby and got nothing > acted like i didnt give a fuck and got everything. There are moments to act like you care, and moments to act like you dont, even if you do > > I’m at the stage right now of bringing her in… and flicking her away The reality is, if you have a job…it’s easier interviewing and being confident while finding a different job. If you have a girl…it’s easier upgrading while you know you have a back burner slampiece. Have some fun, especially if payback is in order. But don’t waste too much time with getting even or any bullshit games. In the end, maturity and a feeling of self worth is priceless. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![deebo](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/deebo/32/5218_2.png) [@deebo](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/deebo)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:38pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/355 "2010-02-11T19:38:08Z")
words of wisdom ---
**Author:** ![TradersBASE](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tradersbase/32/5321_2.png) [@TradersBASE](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/TradersBASE)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:46pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/356 "2010-02-11T19:46:15Z")
> [@deebo](#): > > words of wisdom 😉 > **[Home - Deep Thoughts by Jack Handey](https://deepthoughtsbyjackhandey.com/)** > > Home LOL. ---
**Author:** ![deebo](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/deebo/32/5218_2.png) [@deebo](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/deebo)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 7:51pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/357 "2010-02-11T19:51:37Z")
i knew it!! and omg… totally relevant! [http://www.deepthoughtsbyjackhandey.com/today.asp](http://www.deepthoughtsbyjackhandey.com/today.asp) ---
**Author:** ![pirite](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/pirite/32/5308_2.png) [@pirite](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/pirite)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 8:08pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/358 "2010-02-11T20:08:27Z")
hope shit works out for you karter. ive never met you but you seem like a legit guy from how you are on the board. good luck :tup: oh and… inb4lock ---
**Author:** ![Fry](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/fry/32/7284_2.png) [@Fry](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Fry)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 8:10pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/359 "2010-02-11T20:10:51Z")
> [@TradersBASE](#): > > _Some thoughts after reading all this drama…_ > > Lust does not = love > You can’t think you love someone you just met and be balanced mentally. Work on developing boundaries, it’s a healthy practice. > > If you have to try and convince em to stay…they aren’t worth keeping. > You don’t have to force, beg, plead or bribe to retain true relationship material. > > As a man…acting emotional won’t bring em back, it only makes you look bad and remind them that they had your balls in their pocket. Desperation won’t attract females, at least not any worth keeping. > > Drinking or drugs will dull your pain perhaps, but they will make you do some pretty retarded shit and put yourself in harms way. > > That which doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger! Live, learn and become the best YOU that is possible. > > The best revenge is living well. Once you stop wondering what they are thinking and focus on YOURSELF and healing internally the recovery goes quickly. > > GLWS Words of wisdom. As for the emotional thing, you should never be a blubbering baby around a woman. You’ve got to be her source of strength. BUT, part of that strength is having the balls to let yourself be vulnerable around her. If you never give her the chance to reject you, you’re also never giving her the chance to accept you. It’s hard to explain. Probably won’t make sense to anyone but the more enlightened among us. :pimp: 😛 If you care about someone be open and honest with them. As for this clusterfuck, it appears that in hindsight it was doomed from the start. The entire planet, the karter and littlefoot included, is better off that it ended before they procreated. :roflpicard: ---
**Author:** ![Motocrossx23](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/motocrossx23/32/5120_2.png) [@Motocrossx23](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Motocrossx23)\ **Post date:** [February 11, 2010, 8:17pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/divorced-how-did-you-deal-with-it-now-with-more-drama/79162/360 "2010-02-11T20:17:08Z")
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