# Ever wanted to tell your boss how you really feel?

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**Created:** [February 2, 2009, 8:58am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/ever-wanted-to-tell-your-boss-how-you-really-feel/241773 "2009-02-02T08:58:06Z")\
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**Author:** ![OsoiNA6](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/osoina6/32/6301_2.png) [@OsoiNA6](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/OsoiNA6)\
**Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 7:45am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/ever-wanted-to-tell-your-boss-how-you-really-feel/241773/27 "2009-02-03T07:45:54Z")

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> [@Happy birfday mindless](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/happy-birfday-mindless/13494/4):
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> Yea I totally took the time out of my day to write that whole letter to her, just because i’m in love with myself.
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> Maybe it’s more like, after years of everyone telling me im doing it wrong and people putting me down, I finally have proven myself to them and me. The reasons for her firing me were entirely political and boosted her career.
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> And for everyone who keeps saying what I did was immature, this is how I look at it.  
> She is one of many, but the most significant person who has ever put me down. Obviously you would hold negative feelings towards that person when her reasons were as weak as they were for the outcome that was provided. I acted on those feelings by letting her know how I felt.
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> Some of you may consider that immature. But I would consider anyone who didn’t speak up for themselves a coward and weak. So excuse me for having the balls to tell one of the people who had the most significant negative imapct on my life how I feel.

It’s obvious you harbored bitter feelings and wanted to make yourself feel better by sending the letter.

So, after this happened, you let the entire thing get to you (very understandable), sat on it for a couple of years, and then took some time to write the letter. It can be argued that this letter is of no consequence other than that it makes you feel better. In sending it, you are admitting that you have felt “bad” over the past couple of years because of what your ex-boss did.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad that you have overcome and are now able to experience some measure of success. But since you needed to get back at this person after waiting all this time, it shows that they have exerted influence over you that whole time. So you allowed the balance of power to shift to your ex-boss.

Sending the letter reinforces the fact that you could not get over this initial setback (at the time), and now you have given your ex-boss another reason to remember her “victory” over you. Sure, what she did was screwed up and wrong, but morals often have little to do with power.

One last thing- you have burned a bridge with that letter. You’re probably asking “what the #$@ would I ever need her help for in the future” but to gain power, you have to know how to use your enemies. Make them work for you- don’t empower them by showing weakness and reminding them of previous victories over you.

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