# Finally someone speaks up!

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**Created:** [January 10, 2008, 4:53am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/finally-someone-speaks-up/194684 "2008-01-10T04:53:41Z")\
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**Author:** ![spektator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e19adc/32.png) [@spektator](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/spektator)\
**Post date:** [January 10, 2008, 7:04pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/finally-someone-speaks-up/194684/20 "2008-01-10T19:04:11Z")

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> [@So Wrong But So Funny!!](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/so-wrong-but-so-funny/34298/8):
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> I did something similar with my 16 year old son….but I am a little harder on my kids (well lets just say I expect them to respect me….and I will respect them).
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> Anyways…I made my son sign a one-page performance warning agreement to keep his grades at a minimum of straight B’s on all subjects, but my expectation was straight A’s. He was not pulling his end of his responsibility…which was to do homework, study for exams, and do his best in each class. He was blowing off homework in AP History…and it was showing in his grades…low C.
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> I gave him a performance warning like I do my employees at work. I set expectations, listed them, and documented what would happen if each performance measure was not met. On his third time of not meeting the goals….I sell his car!
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> If I caught him with booze and/or drugs….there would be no ad…it would be sold immediately on eBay.
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> I am lucky, I have great kids, but you do have to “work” a little sometimes to keep them on the right path. Parenting usually is not that hard…you just have to pay attention to your kids, respect and treat them as adults, and help them make good decisions.
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> \*\*\*oh and by the way, it worked, back to A’s in classes…and he agreed that he was slacking, and wasn’t sure why, but it was nice we pulled him back into working hard again.

GOOD FOR YOU!!! Im glad to see there are parents out there that know how to discipline their kids w/o using a forceful hand. Your kids will listen if you talk.

And the part about treating them with respect as if they were an adult is something I have preached forever!!! I was nanny to my lil cousin the first year of her life…she paid more attention to me…especially in public than her mom bc she would just let her act up and then give in and give her what she wants. Now shes a spoiled lil brat. Except when shes with me.

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