# Give your dad a hug **URL:** \ **Category:** NYSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [December 15, 2008, 6:27pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790 "2008-12-15T18:27:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Wahoo](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/wahoo/32/8265_2.png) [@Wahoo](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Wahoo)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 7:50pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/21 "2008-12-15T19:50:25Z")
sorry for your loss man ---
**Author:** ![Fry](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/fry/32/7284_2.png) [@Fry](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Fry)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 7:59pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/22 "2008-12-15T19:59:28Z")
Sorry to hear dude. If it weren’t for the pain it would seem kinda surreal, like a dream, huh? ☹ ---
**Author:** ![boxxa](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/boxxa/32/5045_2.png) [@boxxa](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/boxxa)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:06pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/23 "2008-12-15T20:06:35Z")
Sorry to hear man. ---
**Author:** ![BillysRevenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@BillysRevenge](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/BillysRevenge)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:09pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/24 "2008-12-15T20:09:28Z")
Not good sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://canada1.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/uploads/speedlife/original/2X/b/b7170c8eddc0b95ece6b88172b2f416a08489a45.png) [@system](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/system)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:12pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/25 "2008-12-15T20:12:02Z")
Im so sorry to hear that man. ---
**Author:** ![9c1ny](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/9c1ny/32/5050_2.png) [@9c1ny](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/9c1ny)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:17pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/26 "2008-12-15T20:17:25Z")
thanks guys in the time he was in the hospital he suffered 3 heart attacks, about 5 episodes of MRSA pueumonia, about 4 episodes of regular pnuemonia, reoccurant C-Dif infections and his kidneys had shut down and he was getting regular dialysis treatments, this is of course on top of being on a ventilator and having to get a peg-tube, not to mention last week they told us he suffered brain death and would never wake up again (he did wake up and was talking and drinking his favorite drink, diet coke) My dad did spend a good deal off time off the vent (on O2) and was able to talk I saw him suffer so horribly and watched him regress physically he NEVER at any point complained and was usually upbeat when we spoke and generally kept the conversation to daily bullshit and was more concerned about me than himself If I can be half the man my dad was I should make out well in life My dad in his younger years was a avid car guy and won many trophies at Lancaster, he ran everything from a Ford Starliner convert to a 66 Ford Fairlane 390 4speed Vert to a 69 428 Cobrajet Mustang with the dragpak option and a 4 speed He also was a diehard Bills and Sabres fan in good times and bad (mostly), we often shot the shit about football and it pained both of us to see the Bills go south so quick this season As he promised his dad on his deathbed I also swore to look out for my mom as long as I shall live My dad always stood behind me 100% and loved me unconditionally 100%, he was one of my best friends in this world, I am very lucky to have been his son Its very sad to lose him but I would like to think hes in a place now where life can no longer hurt him… ---
**Author:** ![ryanmcell](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ryanmcell/32/7510_2.png) [@ryanmcell](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ryanmcell)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:21pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/27 "2008-12-15T20:21:45Z")
Sorry to hear for your loss look on the bright side though and think of all the good times had. I wish I could say the same for my biological father. ---
**Author:** ![9c1ny](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/9c1ny/32/5050_2.png) [@9c1ny](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/9c1ny)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:23pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/28 "2008-12-15T20:23:49Z")
> [@ryanmcell](#): > > Sorry to hear for your loss look on the bright side though and think of all the good times had. I wish I could say the same for my biological father. thanks man, I do, I am VERY lucky to have had him for a dad, I was a asshole kid and I think my life would have turned out alot differently had he not displayed such endless patience and love for me ---
**Author:** ![jt76](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/jt76/32/5100_2.png) [@jt76](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/jt76)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:26pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/29 "2008-12-15T20:26:00Z")
Im sorry to hear this Tim. As stated, remember the good times and the fact that he was able to fulfill his wish of seeing you grown. ---
**Author:** ![camarojoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c67d28/32.png) [@camarojoe](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/camarojoe)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:39pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/30 "2008-12-15T20:39:00Z")
Sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![MOBOOST4U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f4b2a3/32.png) [@MOBOOST4U](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/MOBOOST4U)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:45pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/31 "2008-12-15T20:45:28Z")
Things will get better as time goes on… I hope that happens sooner rather than later for you. My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![2TurboZ](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/2turboz/32/7577_2.png) [@2TurboZ](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/2TurboZ)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:50pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/32 "2008-12-15T20:50:07Z")
> [@9c1ny](#): > > thanks guys > > in the time he was in the hospital he suffered 3 heart attacks, about 5 episodes of MRSA pueumonia, about 4 episodes of regular pnuemonia, reoccurant C-Dif infections and his kidneys had shut down and he was getting regular dialysis treatments, this is of course on top of being on a ventilator and having to get a peg-tube, not to mention last week they told us he suffered brain death and would never wake up again (he did wake up and was talking and drinking his favorite drink, diet coke) > > My dad did spend a good deal off time off the vent (on O2) and was able to talk > > I saw him suffer so horribly and watched him regress physically > > he NEVER at any point complained and was usually upbeat when we spoke and generally kept the conversation to daily bullshit and was more concerned about me than himself > > If I can be half the man my dad was I should make out well in life > > My dad in his younger years was a avid car guy and won many trophies at Lancaster, he ran everything from a Ford Starliner convert to a 66 Ford Fairlane 390 4speed Vert to a 69 428 Cobrajet Mustang with the dragpak option and a 4 speed > > He also was a diehard Bills and Sabres fan in good times and bad (mostly), we often shot the shit about football and it pained both of us to see the Bills go south so quick this season > > As he promised his dad on his deathbed I also swore to look out for my mom as long as I shall live > > My dad always stood behind me 100% and loved me unconditionally 100%, he was one of my best friends in this world, I am very lucky to have been his son > > Its very sad to lose him but I would like to think hes in a place now where life can no longer hurt him… Wow…I dont know you and havent ever met you in person but just reading this leads me to believe you are a stand up guy and a class act and usually that apple doesnt fall too far from the tree. Sorry for your loss but it sounds like he will live on with you forever and you will live in his memory. ---
**Author:** ![9c1ny](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/9c1ny/32/5050_2.png) [@9c1ny](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/9c1ny)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:53pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/33 "2008-12-15T20:53:50Z")
> [@2TurboZ](#): > > Wow…I dont know you and havent ever met you in person but just reading this leads me to believe you are a stand up guy and a class act and usually that apple doesnt fall too far from the tree. > > Sorry for your loss but it sounds like he will live on with you forever and you will live in his memory. thanks man ---
**Author:** ![livin4hockey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/d2c977/32.png) [@livin4hockey](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/livin4hockey)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 8:54pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/34 "2008-12-15T20:54:22Z")
Sorry for your loss. I hope all the best for you, your family, and all those who knew your father during this time. ---
**Author:** ![95d16turbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/9/977dab/32.png) [@95d16turbo](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/95d16turbo)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 9:46pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/35 "2008-12-15T21:46:08Z")
sorry to hear about your loss man. ---
**Author:** ![JEG](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/jeg/32/7246_2.png) [@JEG](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/JEG)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 10:10pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/36 "2008-12-15T22:10:17Z")
:tdown: I’m very sorry to hear that man. ---
**Author:** ![FearBefore128](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/fearbefore128/32/5115_2.png) [@FearBefore128](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/FearBefore128)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 10:20pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/37 "2008-12-15T22:20:41Z")
Sounds like he was a good man, and from all the shit he’d gone through before the end, a fighter, I am sorry for your loss I need to swing by the house tomorrow and see my dad, I was there today demanding help with a friend’s Golf Mk3 and barely even thanked him…maybe i’ll help him build the MkII GTI Model kit i bought him for his b-day a few weeks back… ---
**Author:** ![Paulo](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/paulo/32/7328_2.png) [@Paulo](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Paulo)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 10:25pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/38 "2008-12-15T22:25:37Z")
Terrible. It’s awful that he had to go through all that. I’m sorry to hear. Hang in there man. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Detective\_Coating](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/detective_coating/32/5319_2.png) [@Detective\_Coating](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Detective_Coating)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 10:34pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/39 "2008-12-15T22:34:28Z")
I’m glad to hear that you got to talk to him before his passing and shoot the shit with him one last time. He sounds like a very strong man and a fighter to the end. I had a couple tears after reading what you wrote above because thats exactly how me and my father are and I don’t know what I would do without him. Once again, I’m very for your loss and wish you and your family the best throughout the holidays. ---
**Author:** ![Shrives](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/shrives/32/7250_2.png) [@Shrives](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Shrives)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2008, 10:43pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790/40 "2008-12-15T22:43:02Z")
Sorry for your loss ☹ I almost lost my dad this year to cancer and it was a very tough time for me to handle. It sounds like you had the same kind of close relationship with yours as i do mine, like best friends. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but look at the positives, you had an amazing relationship with him and it sounds like he raised a good, standup guy :tup: I wish you the best during these tough times… [Previous page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790.md?page=1) [Next page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/give-your-dad-a-hug/59790.md?page=3)