# How to ditch the baggage.... **URL:** \ **Category:** NYSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [March 25, 2009, 11:01am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078 "2009-03-25T11:01:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![tpgsr](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tpgsr/32/7374_2.png) [@tpgsr](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/tpgsr)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2009, 3:04pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/61 "2009-03-25T15:04:06Z")
^lol… and change the background on her computer to the picture of you with the other girl in your car. ---
**Author:** ![Motocrossx23](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/motocrossx23/32/5120_2.png) [@Motocrossx23](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Motocrossx23)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2009, 3:04pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/62 "2009-03-25T15:04:45Z")
> [@deebo](#): > > but then you could have made her feel really shity about herself and hate her life 🙂 Already done, I found out early on, she never knew bout me tho. I like to think it’s payback Btw leaving this thread open would be hilarious!!! ---
**Author:** ![Syrup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3ab097/32.png) [@Syrup](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Syrup)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2009, 3:05pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/63 "2009-03-25T15:05:59Z")
> [@Daddie](#): > > Why don’t you leave yourself logged into NYSpeed at her place and have this thread open? ^^ finally some thought put into this lol ---
**Author:** ![VANDIT](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/vandit/32/4977_2.png) [@VANDIT](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/VANDIT)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2009, 3:24pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/64 "2009-03-25T15:24:32Z")
> [@newman](#): > > Don’t be a fggt about it and just tell her straight. wurd, and then dont call her, ever again note, unless the sex was fantastic =) ---
**Author:** ![ryanmcell](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ryanmcell/32/7510_2.png) [@ryanmcell](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ryanmcell)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2009, 6:09pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/65 "2009-03-25T18:09:12Z")
Man… if you want a really nice way to do it see below, otherwise just tell her straight up its over. “I am who I am, you are who you are, we can’t say we didn’t give it a try but it’s just not working out anymore and I think we should go our own ways, I’ll be here if you need a friend to talk to” I’ve used that with a lot of girls who started off as booty calls and thought they were more. For any actual GF we both pretty much knew it was coming so it’s never a surprise to say it’s over. ---
**Author:** ![TradersBASE](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tradersbase/32/5321_2.png) [@TradersBASE](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/TradersBASE)\ **Post date:** [March 25, 2009, 11:38pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/66 "2009-03-25T23:38:07Z")
> [@Mr. T](#): > > Haha no prob. > > My philosophy - > > Women are sacred, Ive never cheated a a girl before in my life, its happened to me but I still stick with what I believe in, because im better than that. But with that being said if I just started talking to a girl and I hook up with someone else its different. > > Every single broad in this world is fucking insane, one way or another. Some show it more often than others… and your a blind ignorant fuck if your reading this saying to your self " she is absolutely perfect".Just give it time… for her many emotions to come out (usually after about a year and a half of being with them). A marriage or long relationship usually survives solely on how well a man can adapt,get used to and tolerate a woman multiple moods and behaviors. Women and men are two totally different types of beings with tons of different organs and chemicals which produces multiple different images, logic and ways of thinking. Women want to be chased and desired constantly. When you fight and they say they want to be left alone, they really want you to be there. They play little fuckin mind games that they think you know how to figure out, but it is totally impossible unless you are a woman and understand the crazy fucked up ways they think. > > usually when a relationship ends with the girl saying it isnt working out or what ever or the typical " were two different people than we were when we first started dating", Its because the guy began to lose his tolerance and interest to the multitude of moods and emotions of the girl he has been with, and the girl sensed that and felt they weren’t the center of attention and could tell the relationship was on the way out. This guy has it down! Great post. The key is to be honest but minimalistic. The bottom line is it’s over. If you give a glimmer of hope she’ll cling an stalk more than likely. ---
**Author:** ![snowracer101](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@snowracer101](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/snowracer101)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:16am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/67 "2009-03-26T01:16:11Z")
a few gfs ago, i found out my girlfriend at the time hung out with a dude (dinner,movie) and I hated the kid…while I was at a race for the weekend. I sent her a picture message, of another girl,naked, saying “I fucked this last night,love you too” sad to say, we stayed together for another few months. LOL ---
**Author:** ![ILC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ilc/32/5337_2.png) [@ILC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ILC)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 2:00am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/68 "2009-03-26T02:00:30Z")
> [@sedlmeier101](#): > > a few gfs ago, i found out my girlfriend at the time hung out with a dude (dinner,movie) and I hated the kid…while I was at a race for the weekend. > > I sent her a picture message, of another girl,naked, saying “I fucked this last night,love you too” > > sad to say, we stayed together for another few months. LOL Easy… I know of several girls that are still with their BF after they know whom they fucked several times over and over… Also I could call over 10 girls and fuck them if I wanted to right now… Its really a sad statement, but I’m not a cock sucker… and will not exploit their weaknesses ---
**Author:** ![ultradriver10000](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ultradriver10000/32/7397_2.png) [@ultradriver10000](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ultradriver10000)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:16pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/69 "2009-03-26T13:16:21Z")
> [@ILC](#): > > Easy… > > I know of several girls that are still with their BF after they know whom they fucked several times over and over… > > Also I could call over 10 girls and fuck them if I wanted to right now… Its really a sad statement, but I’m not a cock sucker… and will not exploit their weaknesses Could you call all 10 at once and have an 11 some? ---
**Author:** ![boardjnky4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/96bed5/32.png) [@boardjnky4](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/boardjnky4)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:18pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/70 "2009-03-26T13:18:50Z")
definitely don’t invite her over to your place. Go to her place, drop the bomb, and then leave. You don’t want her sobbing up your place with tears and not leaving. ---
**Author:** ![Motocrossx23](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/motocrossx23/32/5120_2.png) [@Motocrossx23](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Motocrossx23)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:19pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/71 "2009-03-26T13:19:38Z")
Yeah I’ve had a few elevensomes… Lmao ---
**Author:** ![SilverGT](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8dc957/32.png) [@SilverGT](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SilverGT)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:25pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/72 "2009-03-26T13:25:16Z")
Post of pictures of the two with pro and cons , then let nyspeeder be the jury on whether to dump or keep. Lol What made the relationship sour? ---
**Author:** ![tinsil](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tinsil/32/5365_2.png) [@tinsil](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/tinsil)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:30pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/73 "2009-03-26T13:30:36Z")
get all your stuff from her BEFOREHAND then tell her straight up. Don’t be a dick about it, if you don’t have feelings for her anymore, just tell her. Its not there. Don’t give her lame excuses like “its not the right time in my life” “its not you, its me” “I feel smothered” cause with those phrases you are still giving her hope. Give her NO HOPE! I would rather be told upfront rather than be given the run around. Or be told by a friend. ---
**Author:** ![TradersBASE](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/tradersbase/32/5321_2.png) [@TradersBASE](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/TradersBASE)\ **Post date:** [March 26, 2009, 1:36pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078/74 "2009-03-26T13:36:48Z")
> [@tinsil](#): > > get all your stuff from her BEFOREHAND then tell her straight up. > Don’t be a dick about it, if you don’t have feelings for her anymore, just tell her. Its not there. Don’t give her lame excuses like “its not the right time in my life” “its not you, its me” “I feel smothered” > cause with those phrases you are still giving her hope. Give her NO HOPE! > > **I would rather be told upfront rather than be given the run around.** Or be told by a friend. I’d rather be stabbed in the face once than stabbed in the back multiple times. Healing once is easy, healing over and over with re-opened wounds just prolongs things and causes more pain. [Previous page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/how-to-ditch-the-baggage/65078.md?page=3)