# Marriage?'s **URL:** \ **Category:** PittSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [July 27, 2006, 9:34am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827 "2006-07-27T09:34:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 14\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![newchic](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/newchic/32/5989_2.png) [@newchic](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/newchic)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 2:44pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/41 "2006-07-27T14:44:13Z")
> [@Cutty](#): > > that shows you care for her well being but doesn’t nessisarily mean you love her. i mean i’m sure you do love her but love is way more than food and shelter. Cutty… I’m impressed… you seem very intouch with your feelings… :blue: ---
**Author:** ![newchic](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/newchic/32/5989_2.png) [@newchic](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/newchic)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 2:46pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/42 "2006-07-27T14:46:23Z")
> [@Sight N Sound](#): > > you guys are horrible. :bowrofl: > > Jeff95ta, > > Anyways yeah the seperate bank account thing worked pretty well. Just split up what bills are coming out of what account. Me and Jenn did it that way whe we were together and it was fine. It was also easier in the aspect of busy lives. If Jenn was out and spent say 200 bucks out of the account grocery shopping and I had to go get tires that day on the truck, I didn’t have to worry about how much was in there. > > Then once a week usually or if we were going to buy somthing big we would balance out money so seach other could see what has been going on. Exactly… You have two different parties dumping money into one account that has one checkboook and two mac cards… (mac cards are pure evil in a marriage)… Then one person spends money one bill and the other doesn’t know and tried to use the card and gets denied… YIKES !!! big fight due to embarresment. You’re better off having it seperated… this also stops any control issues one or the other may have. ---
**Author:** ![jinxxycat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/71c47a/32.png) [@jinxxycat](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/jinxxycat)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 3:03pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/43 "2006-07-27T15:03:58Z")
> [@newchic](#): > > Exactly… You have two different parties dumping money into one account that has one checkboook and two mac cards… (mac cards are pure evil in a marriage)… Then one person spends money one bill and the other doesn’t know and tried to use the card and gets denied… YIKES !!! big fight due to embarresment. You’re better off having it seperated… this also stops any control issues one or the other may have. Hubby and I seem to work it out on one account pretty well, I keep track of the finances, I pay the bills, and if we are getting low, I tell him not to spend anything. 🙂 I also keep track of the business finances and the business bills etc. He still doesn’t like to see how much $ is going out the door to bills and taxes etc for the business (he ultimately does know what the bottom line is and what he’s spending…but doesn’t like to pay the man lol) He just likes to get jobs, work, finish jobs, and make the money. I do the paperwork, for business and personal. Any big ticket items are _usually_ discussed between the two of us. Granted, we own our own business, I quit my job and now work at home for the business and get a paycheck, so it’s a unique situation in itself. Regardless, it works for us, but it wouldn’t work for others. ---
**Author:** ![eurodad](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/eurodad/32/5988_2.png) [@eurodad](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/eurodad)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 3:29pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/44 "2006-07-27T15:29:54Z")
> [@SINISTER](#): > > damn ill take that deal in a minute! > sugar momma > > just kididng i know urodad bust his ass off and is a good dad i don’t make enough to pay bills after the daycare gets done raping me. ---
**Author:** ![77rednecktruck](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/77rednecktruck/32/5966_2.png) [@77rednecktruck](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/77rednecktruck)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:25pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/45 "2006-07-27T16:25:13Z")
I couldn’t even tell you how much my paycheck is. I hate dealing with money and the wife likes dealing with the money. hopefully she doesn’t have a secret account and is going to leave with all of my money ❌ :D:D:D:D ---
**Author:** ![fshowcars](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/fshowcars/32/5937_2.png) [@fshowcars](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/fshowcars)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 4:32pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/46 "2006-07-27T16:32:41Z")
i have at least 5 accounts myself… i couldn’t ever imagine only having one account between husband and wife! money management \> arguments. checking, internet buying, interest checking, savings, long-term savings and so on… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![newchic](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/newchic/32/5989_2.png) [@newchic](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/newchic)\ **Post date:** [July 27, 2006, 5:01pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/47 "2006-07-27T17:01:05Z")
> [@eurodad](#): > > i don’t make enough to pay bills after the daycare gets done raping me. you are so full of it… we found a really great daycare for alot less… You big baby. ---
**Author:** ![xlogic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/59ef9b/32.png) [@xlogic](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/xlogic)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 8:30am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/48 "2006-07-28T08:30:53Z")
what kind of \*&%#@$ wants to lead seperate lives…the idea of a marriage is to live YOUR life WITH the ONE person YOU LOVE. A lot of marriages don’t make it these days for a number of reasons…the biggest being a breakdown in communication ---
**Author:** ![yamaha](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/yamaha/32/5929_2.png) [@yamaha](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/yamaha)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 8:40am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/49 "2006-07-28T08:40:48Z")
I’ve always been afraid of marriage. Not the aprt about spending your life with someone you love, but losing your interest, hobbies, and friends when your life is inner twined with someone elses. Sure, only being 21, I don;t have all the experiences of the older crowd on PittSpeed with marriages, but alot could change. One thing I know it, it will be awhile before I am married. ---
**Author:** ![77rednecktruck](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/77rednecktruck/32/5966_2.png) [@77rednecktruck](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/77rednecktruck)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 9:02am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/50 "2006-07-28T09:02:03Z")
> [@yamaha](#): > > I’ve always been afraid of marriage. Not the aprt about spending your life with someone you love, but losing your interest, hobbies, and friends when your life is inner twined with someone elses. > > Sure, only being 21, I don;t have all the experiences of the older crowd on PittSpeed with marriages, but alot could change. One thing I know it, it will be awhile before I am married. I was married a month after I turned 22 and engaged at 19. You do not lose out on anything, that’s a lame excuse. Your attitudes and interests may change, but that’s all part of growing up. ---
**Author:** ![yamaha](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/yamaha/32/5929_2.png) [@yamaha](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/yamaha)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 9:16am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/51 "2006-07-28T09:16:21Z")
Truth, but your generation from mine is alot different. My parents got married at 19, and mom had her first child at 20. Who knows, shit changes so fast, I should probably take back what I said. ---
**Author:** ![77rednecktruck](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/77rednecktruck/32/5966_2.png) [@77rednecktruck](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/77rednecktruck)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 9:17am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/52 "2006-07-28T09:17:50Z")
> [@yamaha](#): > > Truth, but your generation from mine is alot different. My parents got married at 19, and mom had her first child at 20. Who knows, shit changes so fast, I should probably take back what I said. i’m only 29 years old, i’m not like pewterss old. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![yamaha](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/yamaha/32/5929_2.png) [@yamaha](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/yamaha)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 9:25am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/53 "2006-07-28T09:25:37Z")
well, forget generation then, and pewterssis old. ---
**Author:** ![xlogic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/x/59ef9b/32.png) [@xlogic](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/xlogic)\ **Post date:** [July 28, 2006, 9:47am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827/54 "2006-07-28T09:47:49Z")
> [@77rednecktruck](#): > > I was married a month after I turned 22 and engaged at 19. You do not lose out on anything, that’s a lame excuse. Your attitudes and interests may change, but that’s all part of growing up. Thats true it is a lame excuse…me being only 18 i am probably in like the top 5 youngest on pittspeed. But honestly if you love someone marriage will make it…sure you might spend less n less time with your friends and what not but you find ways to replace that…and generally if your marrying the right person you share the same common interests so not all of your hobbies get dropped…you just do them together with that one special person. Me…personally…i can’t wait to get married [Previous page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/marriage-s/183827.md?page=2)