# Need help bringing something up to the rents! **URL:** \ **Category:** NYSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [November 17, 2005, 7:30pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711 "2005-11-17T19:30:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![RockKittie](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/rockkittie/32/7221_2.png) [@RockKittie](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/RockKittie)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 7:30pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/1 "2005-11-17T19:30:53Z")
So I wrote this in my Blog on Myspace tonight, I could use some good advice on how to bring the situation up to my parents: Okay, so i’m a little frustrated right now. I feel like a 5 year old saying this but, I want a dog! Here’s the background on everything right now: We had decided to get a Golden Retriever December of 2003 as a Christmas/Birthday Present for me. We named him “Fred”, here’s a pic of him: ![http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v21/SC2Kittie/fred.jpg](http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v21/SC2Kittie/fred.jpg) Cutest thing EVER, right? Anyway, we bought him from Steve’s Wonderful World of Pets back in Buffalo…mind you he is PUREBREAD Golden Retriever. We brought him home on Dec. 22 and I was so happy…he was my baby. But, I should have thought it through, I should have probably adopted from a shelter or something, i’ll describe why later. Anyway, we brought Fred home and he was your typical puppy. A very smart and quick learner, he also grew very fast. But, as he grew more, he became more “sly” and would do things I believe to intentionally piss us off. Like he would do things even when he knew he’d get in trouble for them. He really didn’t understand discipline like other dogs do. When dogs are young and they do something wrong, the mother bites the scruff of the neck as a way of saying “don’t do that!” and also when they hear loud yelps (like he would bite me and I would yelp “ow!”) they usually stop what they’re doing because they take a “yelp” as a sign of pain. He started to become more destructive, and it got to the point where we couldn’t handle it anymore. Plus, it wasn’t helping that my Dad was allergic, I was in school Monday-Friday all day from like 10-3 and then i’d work 4-9. I’d also work weekends and rarely have off. I didn’t have control like I do now. So because of the bad experience with Fred, my parents are pretty much against us EVER getting a dog again. But the thing is, things are different now. When we had Fred back in Buffalo, we had him right around wintertime, and it was hard to take him out on walks, and also hard to let him out in the morning because it would be so cold or snowing. After my sister and I did the math we realized a lot of things. We bought Fred at I believe 3 or 4 months. Here’s the thing, he was born in South Dakota, then he was transported somewhere else for his microchipping, then finally sent to Buffalo to be sold at Steve’s Pets. After Mere and I did the math, we figured out he was taken away from his mother and fellow pups too early to learn the things that a puppy learns between birth and around 2 months. When my parents broke the news to me that we had to give Fred away, I was heartbroken. Not only were they giving away my dog, but my birthday present and all my hopes of ever owning another dog. My Dad was allergic (or so he says, my sister and I still believe it was partially an excuse…) so it wasn’t going to work out. I remember just crying all day, and crying when we had to give him away. Recently things are very different than they were in Buffalo. Mere and Ricky are getting a dog (Wyatt) tomorrow, and my parents are weary about it, but I don’t understand why. My Dad LOVES the dogs next door “Buddy” and “Lucy”. Buddy is a Golden just like Fred was and Lucy is a black lab. I think Buddy shows my Dad that not all Goldens are bad. A couple months ago, we found a lost dog “Snoopy” who happened to follow my parents home while they were on a walk. He was small, probably like 15-20lbs and a Chihuahua/Terrier Mix. Since he didn’t have a tag except for the vet tag and it was like 10pm, we decided to keep him overnight and care for him till the next morning when I took him to the vet to reunite him with his owners. During that night, my parents fell in love with him! They even said if Snoopy didn’t have an owner, that we could keep him! I mean come on, this is coming from my parents who are like anti-dog! What’s weird too is that at the beginning of the night, my Dad was like “Uh I think i’m starting to itch” I was like “Dad he barely has any hair!” he was a short-haired dog. It pissed me off, because he started pulling out that allergy excuse again. But as Snoopy showed them how caring, smart and well behaved he was, they fell in love with him. Anyway, we obviously found Snoopy’s owner, but it gave me hope that we would one day be able to own a dog again. I really want that one day to be soon. The other day I was on [petfinder.com](http://petfinder.com) and browsing for s\*its and giggles through different dogs, and I found one PERFECT for our family. First off, let me say that things ARE different than they were in Buffalo. We are in a warmer climate where it is easier to care for dogs, and not as hard to take them out (since there’s not 3 ft of snow outside). I only work on the weekends with Disney, and when i’m at school during the week it’s only Mon/Wed or Tues/Thurs and it’s usually for 1/2 a day. Plus, the campus i’m attending next semester is only 20 min away from my house. Not an hour like the campus that i’m at now. I know my parents are financially able to also help care for this animal, as am I. I’ve been managing my finances lately and I believe that this is something that’s possible. When I brought up “Dasha” tonight (the dog I found), my Dad was just like “Not now” and pretty much blew me off. I felt like a 6 year old when they ask why they can’t do something, and the parent responds, “Because I said so.” I’m sorry, to me that’s not a reason. I love dogs, and i’ve grown up around them my whole life. I was the one who trained Fred, and i’m very experienced at caring for dogs. It’s frustrating, i’d also like to have a companion. Right now I have Buster my bird, but there’s only so much that he can really do. Here’s the link to “Dasha”: [http://www.petfinder.com/pet.cgi?action=2&pet=4628558&adTarget=&Sessi…436e613618cccad0-app4&display=&preview=1&row=150&tmpl=&stat](http://www.petfinder.com/pet.cgi?action=2&pet=4628558&adTarget=&Sessi..436e613618cccad0-app4&display=&preview=1&row=150&tmpl=&stat)= I don’t know how to bring it up to my parents. They don’t realize that things are different now than they were in Buffalo, and that just because we had a bad experience with a bad dog, they think that it will happen with any other dog we take in. They’ve blown off the idea numerous times and i’m sick of being blown off like a child, i’m ready and this is something that I want and i’m willing to pursue. Any ideas anyone? Anyway, thanks for reading my rant, please leave comments if you have any suggestions. ---
**Author:** ![jay940](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/45deac/32.png) [@jay940](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/jay940)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 8:16pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/2 "2005-11-17T20:16:31Z")
Send your parents an email with all of this in there and i’m sure they would reconsider, or tell then what you just told all of us. ---
**Author:** ![Daddie](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/daddie/32/7621_2.png) [@Daddie](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Daddie)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 8:46pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/3 "2005-11-17T20:46:13Z")
parents \> you till you pay rent ☹ ---
**Author:** ![bamfer9duce](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/58956e/32.png) [@bamfer9duce](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/bamfer9duce)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 9:55pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/4 "2005-11-17T21:55:16Z")
I wouldn’t normally have read a thread like this but when I clicked on the preview I thought you had to tell your parents that you were pregnant. Anyways hope you get a dawg. ---
**Author:** ![Jon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/3bc359/32.png) [@Jon](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Jon)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 10:19pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/5 "2005-11-17T22:19:35Z")
Getting one and bringing it home is the only way,suprise attack.Tell them you found it inside a dumpter filled with medical waste and you were heartbroken. ---
**Author:** ![Willybeen](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/willybeen/32/7351_2.png) [@Willybeen](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Willybeen)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 11:02pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/6 "2005-11-17T23:02:32Z")
> [@Jon](#): > > Getting one and bringing it home is the only way,suprise attack.Tell them you found it inside a dumpter filled with medical waste and you were heartbroken. word it is easier to beg forgiveness than ask permission… i went through many things this way… my first streetbike… (parents made me get rid of it though) i caught a chipmunk when i was like 8 cuz i wanted a hampster and they said no… my parents were hardcore stubborn though… they made me return most of my investments… bastards… let us know how you make out… btw how old are you? ---
**Author:** ![Freek](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/freek/32/7357_2.png) [@Freek](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Freek)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 11:13pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/7 "2005-11-17T23:13:13Z")
> [@Daddie](#): > > parents \> you > > till you pay rent ☹ and still even after you pay rent … ---
**Author:** ![Rx3](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/rx3/32/7194_2.png) [@Rx3](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Rx3)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2005, 11:34pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/8 "2005-11-17T23:34:41Z")
> [@jay940](#): > > Send your parents an email with all of this in there . 🤣 > [@RockKittie](#): > > my Dad was like “Uh I think i’m starting to itch” I was like “Dad he barely has any hair!” he was a short-haired dog. It pissed me off, because he started pulling out that allergy excuse again. . That’s a big assumption on your part. Just because the dog is short haired doesn’t mean that an allergic reaction won’t happen. Your Dad from your description seems to like dogs, but that doesn’t mean that if he has _prolonged_ (sp?) exposure that things can’t change. He can probably deal with an overnight “rescue” but prolonged exposure will complicate matters. That point aside, you need to remember that you are living with your parents. You know your parents better than anyone on the internet. Your best bet is to just talk to them. Don’t hit them with everything at once. Break up all the issues into smaller and shorter conversations and spread that out a bit. I would advise against the “surprise attack” method :lol: but then again, you know your parents better than we do. Even though you did “the math” and might have figured out why your first dog was such a pain in the ass, remember that your parents having to deal with that has already swayed their opinion. You say you can take care of a dog now, but how do you know things won’t change? If you are going to school and/or work, there is no way to guarantee your time. You may have to wait until you have your own place before you can have a pet again. ---
**Author:** ![HotRodKid](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/hotrodkid/32/7609_2.png) [@HotRodKid](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/HotRodKid)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 12:07am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/9 "2005-11-18T00:07:47Z")
> [@Jon](#): > > Getting one and bringing it home is the only way,suprise attack.Tell them you found it inside a dumpter filled with medical waste and you were heartbroken. this might require covering the dog in bloody badages and still born babys … and we all know parents dont like dogs that are covered in still births … ---
**Author:** ![newman](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/newman/32/7569_2.png) [@newman](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/newman)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 5:00am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/10 "2005-11-18T05:00:16Z")
the best thing about having a dog is having something to take your aggression out on. Whenever i am pissed i kick my moms dog in the throat or face. That always feels good. ---
**Author:** ![newman](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/newman/32/7569_2.png) [@newman](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/newman)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 5:03am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/11 "2005-11-18T05:03:08Z")
i didn’t think it mattered if it was long or short haired, because it is dander, not hair that people are allergic to. ---
**Author:** ![RockKittie](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/rockkittie/32/7221_2.png) [@RockKittie](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/RockKittie)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:37am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/12 "2005-11-18T08:37:37Z")
> [@Willybeen](#): > > word it is easier to beg forgiveness than ask permission… i went through many things this way… my first streetbike… (parents made me get rid of it though) i caught a chipmunk when i was like 8 cuz i wanted a hampster and they said no… my parents were hardcore stubborn though… they made me return most of my investments… bastards… let us know how you make out… btw how old are you? I’ll be 21 on Dec. 26 🙂 Trust me I have thought about bringing this dog home, BUT I don’t want to do that to a dog where 1. She has been put up for adoption once already 2. Would come home to a home where 2 out of the 3 people living in it are weary of her being there. I wouldn’t do that to a sheltered dog, it wouldn’t be fair to her. ---
**Author:** ![RockKittie](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/rockkittie/32/7221_2.png) [@RockKittie](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/RockKittie)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:39am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/13 "2005-11-18T08:39:01Z")
> [@newman](#): > > the best thing about having a dog is having something to take your aggression out on. Whenever i am pissed i kick my moms dog in the throat or face. That always feels good. I hope you’re kidding. ---
**Author:** ![Nikuk](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/nikuk/32/7254_2.png) [@Nikuk](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Nikuk)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:43am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/14 "2005-11-18T08:43:31Z")
forgiveness \> permission :tup: ---
**Author:** ![SilencingMachine](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/silencingmachine/32/7593_2.png) [@SilencingMachine](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SilencingMachine)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:48am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/15 "2005-11-18T08:48:14Z")
> [@newman](#): > > the best thing about having a dog is having something to take your aggression out on. Whenever i am pissed i kick my moms dog in the throat or face. That always feels good. :bloated: **Is there a name for what’s wrong with you??** ---
**Author:** ![Nikuk](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/nikuk/32/7254_2.png) [@Nikuk](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Nikuk)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:54am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/16 "2005-11-18T08:54:04Z")
> [@SilencingMachine](#): > > :bloated: **Is there a name for what’s wrong with you??** attention whore a.d.d. emo good spirit jokester TIITB antagonist LikesToGetARiseOutOfYou V.newman etc… :gotme: ---
**Author:** ![MonteCarloChick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ee59a6/32.png) [@MonteCarloChick](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/MonteCarloChick)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:56am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/17 "2005-11-18T08:56:59Z")
> [@Nikuk](#): > > attention whore > a.d.d. > emo > good spirit jokester > TIITB > antagonist > LikesToGetARiseOutOfYou V.newman > etc… > > :gotme: I’ll go with _LikesToGetARiseOutOfYou V.newman_ And honestly I laughed at what he said because it was so wrong ---
**Author:** ![newman](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/newman/32/7569_2.png) [@newman](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/newman)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 8:59am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/18 "2005-11-18T08:59:33Z")
:tup: to dog kicking? ---
**Author:** ![Nikuk](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/nikuk/32/7254_2.png) [@Nikuk](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Nikuk)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 9:00am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/19 "2005-11-18T09:00:14Z")
> [@MonteCarloChick](#): > > I’ll go with _LikesToGetARiseOutOfYou V.newman_ > > And honestly I laughed at what he said because it was so wrong :word: i was laughing too I rarely take him at face value. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![SilencingMachine](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/silencingmachine/32/7593_2.png) [@SilencingMachine](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SilencingMachine)\ **Post date:** [November 18, 2005, 9:43am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711/20 "2005-11-18T09:43:18Z")
> [@Nikuk](#): > > attention whore > a.d.d. > emo > good spirit jokester > TIITB > antagonist > LikesToGetARiseOutOfYou V.newman > etc… > > :gotme: those are all great guesses nick. i was leaning more towards manic depression or bi-polar disorder. > [@newman](#): > > :tup: to dog kicking? being serious here for a sec – if you haven’t been recently evaluated by a physician, you might want to think about scheduling an appointment. [Next page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-help-bringing-something-up-to-the-rents/4711.md?page=2)