# Need some sincere advice **URL:** \ **Category:** Shift518 Off Topic\ **Created:** [June 7, 2009, 6:45am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606 "2009-06-07T06:45:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Ilya](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ilya/32/6404_2.png) [@Ilya](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Ilya)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2009, 9:00pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/121 "2009-06-09T21:00:07Z")
You make it sound like I got another 10 years to go. That is not the case. lol. ---
**Author:** ![Jimmerz](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/jimmerz/32/6370_2.png) [@Jimmerz](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Jimmerz)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 9:26am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/122 "2009-06-10T09:26:19Z")
> [@Tc\> Celica Gt](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/tc-celica-gt/19042/6): > > A long read but please read it if you want to give advice. > > Having troubles with the lady and although I know what I SHOULD do, it’s good to hear it from other people sometimes. Usually I am the one with the advice but I guess it’s different from the inside. > > I’ve been with my girl for about 9 months. Almost a year. It has had its ups and downs but this morning was really a kick in the junk. In the beggining of the relationship I openly told her that for awhile I might have some trust issues because of the last whore I dated for 5 years. So I asked her upfront to just be honest with me and if you ever want to do something that I might question just talk to me about it first. As long as people are open with me and you don’t give me a reason to doubt you, I won’t. > > So anyway, she started this job at Lowe’s and made some friends. One of them is this kid, Justin. Total toolbag but w/e. I have no problems with my g/f having friends that are guys but right off the bat he would text her a million times a day, call her, AIM, blah blah blah. So I basically told my girlfriend I wasn’t comfortable with how often he feels the need to talk to her. So she told him and it stopped for awhile. Well recently, he started talking to her again. I did tell her it was ok, as I had met him and had confidence he wouldn’t break my trust. > > Well the other day I was staying at her place and turned on her laptop to check my emails. They had an open IM convo on the desktop. I DID NOT read it becuase im trying to build trust. Well, she came over and was like, oh, can you close my AIM for me. So i did. The next series of events is really what made me question this faggot. > > It was 8AM and she had to be to work by 9AM. She lives 5 mintues from me so she told me should would bring me home on her way to work. Well for some reason she wanted to bring me home right then, before she even got ready. This was out of place to me and made me kind of curious. It felt like she was trying to hide something on her laptop. And being that her convo with Justin was just there, that is what I thought it was about. So, this morning she left for work, I told her I would head out after awhile, (a little hung over), so I opened her laptop to check my emails, and the convo was up again. So I read it. Apparently this fucker has been talking to her, not like a friend, but like a girl he wants his dick in. Then half way down, I read the part that fucking pissed me off. They were trying to make plans to hang out around my schedule so that I wouldn’t know. There was nothing in the convo that made me think it had to do with cheating on me or not. Regardless, she lied to me. I asked her if he ever hit on her or asked to hang out and she looked right in my face and said no. What bothers me is that if they really are friends, why keep it secret from me? So I got up, went right into where she was working. I let her have it and told her basically that she is completely donet alking to the fuck and that we need to have a long convo when she gets home. > > So I need to know what to do. Now my trust issues are going to be double fold with her, ill question everything she does now. It kills me that she lied to me, in a relationship its a huge deal. I have not once lied to her. And if I see Justin, I might beat him pretty badly. In MOST cases she would be gone as of right now, but there is something different about her I love. Maybe because shes the first girl that isn’t a clinger and we have a lot of fun when we are together. Irregardless I know what I should do, but should I? she lied to you right to your face, you know the truth it was there when you read it. she lied, he wants to dick yer girl…and apparently cares not that shes with somone… kick her lieing ass to the curb… and move on because if you dont your only asking for a huge head ache. the somthing diffrent about her is you probly have a real connection with this girl and you like her and shes probly good in bed… but heres the thing… theres honor among thieves but not liars… a liar will lie and lie and lie even when their caught…you want to live in a relationship like that? ---
**Author:** ![SRS\_BZNS](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/srs_bzns/32/6375_2.png) [@SRS\_BZNS](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SRS_BZNS)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 1:47pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/123 "2009-06-10T13:47:58Z")
I frown upon it. Your a shiny spot on the vaginal scretion soaked balls of society. Compare your life to mine then kill yourself ---
**Author:** ![Ilya](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ilya/32/6404_2.png) [@Ilya](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Ilya)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 2:04pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/124 "2009-06-10T14:04:43Z")
Hahah. I shall join the rest of this vaginal scretion soaked balls of society soon enough my friend. ---
**Author:** ![TurboTravis](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/turbotravis/32/6406_2.png) [@TurboTravis](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/TurboTravis)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2009, 5:15pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/125 "2009-06-10T17:15:50Z")
> [@raod test tomarro](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/raod-test-tomarro/19165/33): > > You make it sound like I got another 10 years to go. That is not the case. lol. Here’s the deal man-if you were not a virgin, you’d understand the whole ‘how girls/guys can’t be just friends’ deal. Bump this thread once you get your p-p wet. ---
**Author:** ![JRubino](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/jrubino/32/6285_2.png) [@JRubino](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/JRubino)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 11:06am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/126 "2009-06-12T11:06:21Z")
Wow, what a thread. ---
**Author:** ![Vovchandr](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/vovchandr/32/6275_2.png) [@Vovchandr](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Vovchandr)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2009, 9:23pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/127 "2009-06-12T21:23:01Z")
> [@1 GB Flash Drive $7.99](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/1-gb-flash-drive-7-99/19280/6): > > Wow, what a thread. Indeed. Considering on throwing this into “Epic” but I don’t think it quite reached that status. Any updates? The problems seems to sail away rather quickly on a river of alcohol. =) ---
**Author:** ![Singh1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ba8739/32.png) [@Singh1](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Singh1)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2009, 5:10am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/128 "2009-06-14T05:10:00Z")
lmao now its all about ilya vs world on the virgin debate i knew it ! ---
**Author:** ![SRS\_BZNS](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/srs_bzns/32/6375_2.png) [@SRS\_BZNS](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SRS_BZNS)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 8:53am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/129 "2009-06-15T08:53:58Z")
I went up to lowes in GF this weekend to see if i could find some slutty hot girl working there. Turned out it was all geriatrics and shit. I was disappointed. So I went to the KB toy outlet bought some _My Little Pony_ dolls and trekked up to lake george to try and get a new girlfriend. ---
**Author:** ![99FRC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/99frc/32/6335_2.png) [@99FRC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/99FRC)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 9:15am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/130 "2009-06-15T09:15:25Z")
> [@FS:TW 1992 Honda Civic VX -56K nope.](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/fs-tw-1992-honda-civic-vx-56k-nope/18236/32): > > Indeed. > > Considering on throwing this into “Epic” but I don’t think it quite reached that status. > > Any updates? The problems seems to sail away rather quickly on a river of alcohol. =) I took your advice when I broke up with her. I told her that if she could get her shit together we could talk about everything. Well, about a week later, she called me and we met up. She explained everything and without me saying a word told me what I wanted to hear. So, i’m going to give it one more shot. But i told her that if she even makes me think that I can’t trust her again, it will end very very fast. ---
**Author:** ![SRS\_BZNS](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/srs_bzns/32/6375_2.png) [@SRS\_BZNS](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SRS_BZNS)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 9:21am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/131 "2009-06-15T09:21:55Z")
punch her in the vaginal ---
**Author:** ![Vovchandr](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/vovchandr/32/6275_2.png) [@Vovchandr](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Vovchandr)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 9:36am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/132 "2009-06-15T09:36:46Z")
How did she justify the situation? Did she blame it on the other party or admitted fault? Set the limits and stand by them, if an argument starts over a similar situation just walk out, or tell her to get out depending on the residence, in this case it would be two strikes and you’re out. Whenever you think about letting her do something that you’re not sure on or something is on the edge of the limit, just keep in mind that you’re not going to get serious with it unless _she_ believes in it. So just _don’t care_. ---
**Author:** ![kramerbuccs24](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/kramerbuccs24/32/6397_2.png) [@kramerbuccs24](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/kramerbuccs24)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 9:41am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/133 "2009-06-15T09:41:10Z")
> [@Saw 3 Poll for Show times.](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/saw-3-poll-for-show-times/19336/60): > > I took your advice when I broke up with her. I told her that if she could get her shit together we could talk about everything. Well, about a week later, she called me and we met up. She explained everything and without me saying a word told me what I wanted to hear. So, i’m going to give it one more shot. But i told her that if she even makes me think that I can’t trust her again, it will end very very fast. that sounds like a start to me, good luck with everything and if that shit happens again, remember that there are ~3 billion females in the world and that there isn’t just 1 that’ll make you happy :thumbup ---
**Author:** ![99FRC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/99frc/32/6335_2.png) [@99FRC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/99FRC)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 10:07am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/134 "2009-06-15T10:07:49Z")
> [@Vovchandr"](#): > > How did she justify the situation? Did she blame it on the other party or admitted fault? > > Set the limits and stand by them, if an argument starts over a similar situation just walk out, or tell her to get out depending on the residence, in this case it would be two strikes and you’re out. > > Whenever you think about letting her do something that you’re not sure on or something is on the edge of the limit, just keep in mind that you’re not going to get serious with it unless _she_ believes in it. So just _don’t care_. She straight admitted fault. Told me she had no idea why she did it but she regrets it because she didn’t realize how much she meant to me. As for the rest, i’m feeling it out for awhile and if she continues forward with positive motion, I will give her my trust back. As for now, she has to earn it. ---
**Author:** ![Vovchandr](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/vovchandr/32/6275_2.png) [@Vovchandr](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Vovchandr)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 10:09am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/135 "2009-06-15T10:09:35Z")
> [@WTB: This wig, & a stuffed hawk/falcon](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wtb-this-wig-a-stuffed-hawk-falcon/19350/2): > > She straight admitted fault. Told me she had no idea why she did it but she regrets it because she didn’t realize how much she meant to me. > > As for the rest, i’m feeling it out for awhile and if she continues forward with positive motion, I will give her my trust back. As for now, she has to earn it. So far so good then, seems like you’re both on the right page. ---
**Author:** ![SRS\_BZNS](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/srs_bzns/32/6375_2.png) [@SRS\_BZNS](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SRS_BZNS)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 10:51am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/136 "2009-06-15T10:51:16Z")
![http://www.neosoft.se/dev/advicedog/advicedog.php?line1=BURY+HER+IN+GUILT&line2=MAKE+HER+BUY+YOU+THINGS](http://www.neosoft.se/dev/advicedog/advicedog.php?line1=BURY+HER+IN+GUILT&line2=MAKE+HER+BUY+YOU+THINGS) Advice dog has sincere advice ---
**Author:** ![Ilya](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ilya/32/6404_2.png) [@Ilya](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Ilya)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 11:02am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/137 "2009-06-15T11:02:41Z")
Sounds like it’s on the upswing 99FRC (sorry, forgot your name). Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![99FRC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/99frc/32/6335_2.png) [@99FRC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/99FRC)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 11:11am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/138 "2009-06-15T11:11:15Z")
> [@SRS BZNS"](#): > > Advice dog has sincere advice I originally thought of that. But instead I went with the “make her do things in bed she wouldn’t normally agree with”. ---
**Author:** ![Boost\_Creep](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/boost_creep/32/6366_2.png) [@Boost\_Creep](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Boost_Creep)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 11:18am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/139 "2009-06-15T11:18:18Z")
> [@Saw 3 Poll for Show times.](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/saw-3-poll-for-show-times/19336/60): > > I took your advice when I broke up with her. I told her that if she could get her shit together we could talk about everything. Well, about a week later, she called me and we met up. She explained everything and without me saying a word told me what I wanted to hear. So, i’m going to give it one more shot. But i told her that if she even makes me think that I can’t trust her again, it will end very very fast. Good for you, be carefull she does not resort back to her ways. She must EARN your trust back. It’s very tough to rebuild it. ---
**Author:** ![SRS\_BZNS](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/srs_bzns/32/6375_2.png) [@SRS\_BZNS](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/SRS_BZNS)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2009, 12:01pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/140 "2009-06-15T12:01:18Z")
> [@FS: 88 GMC 4x4 and 91 Chevy 1500WT CHEAP!!! ---PICS FROM TODAY](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/fs-88-gmc-4x4-and-91-chevy-1500wt-cheap-pics-from-today/19373/3): > > I originally thought of that. But instead I went with the “make her do things in bed she wouldn’t normally agree with”. I can agree with that just as much as the buying things:thumbup [Previous page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606.md?page=6) [Next page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606.md?page=8)