# Need some sincere advice

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**Created:** [June 7, 2009, 6:45am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606 "2009-06-07T06:45:12Z")
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### Author: ![99FRC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/99frc/32/6335_2.png) [@99FRC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/99FRC)
#### Post date: [June 7, 2009, 7:14am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/need-some-sincere-advice/244606/5 "2009-06-07T07:14:02Z")

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> [@Tc\> Celica Gt](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/tc-celica-gt/19042/7):
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> 1 dont beat up the kid for it
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> 2 goin to her work blowin up was a bad idea IMO
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> but i totally feel for you on the whole shit bro… thats fuckin whack and sucks ALOT
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> the best thing to do is be calm and cool about it man and just be straight up with her and let her know what u think but without flipping out and throwing in a bunch of bs words that are not needed
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> IMO 90% of the time u flip out on a chick or act like an asshole its nearly NEVER worth it or was a good idea in the first place… i always act like the shit dont bother me, even tho its 100% their fault etc
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> i would just say let her know that if she wants to hang out with the kid then its whatever, so be it, but if a serious relationship is what was supposed to be then it cant be no more, i mean it sucks cuz if your feelin this girl and u want to be with her then its alot easier to say some shit coming from someone who isnt in your shoes… but it takes two and if one isnt honest then it wont work…
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> oh ya and another thing is like i never thought it was cool to tell a chick what she can or cant do, cuz then thats like telling a kid not to specifically NOT go and do something, cuz then the damn kid is purposely going to try and do it just to spite u… plus it just seems to controlling and a bit lame

Ok let me reiterate. I didn’t blow up on her at work. I just went in and quietly told her how I feel about it. Ether way I got my point across.

And I don’t ever TELL her what to do. I tell her how it would make me feel, if she did do it. It’s up to her at that point. Same with this, until I saw that convo. Now she is not going to talk to him if she values this relationship. I like to think we have a serious thing going on. We have even talked about an apartment in the fall. And IMO there is no room for a guy like that in her life, if she wants to be with me. But again, its up to her.

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