# Quick Question? **URL:** \ **Category:** NYSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [September 24, 2009, 1:55pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984 "2009-09-24T13:55:14Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Twizted](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/twizted/32/7206_2.png) [@Twizted](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Twizted)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 1:55pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/1 "2009-09-24T13:55:14Z")
So i was talking with some friends and this got brought up. Say your dating this girl and u both are “in love” and say id do anything for ya. Now say u wanted to move/or moved for a better job. The girl could easly get a higher paying job with the move too due to her profession. Say the girl says no i wont move i like it here. We all know that long distance relationships dont work so shes pretty much telling you we have to split up. whats your take on this? she worth staying with knowing this ahead of time?? Ladies would you move for your man? ---
**Author:** ![PureXTC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/purextc/32/5223_2.png) [@PureXTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/PureXTC)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:06pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/2 "2009-09-24T14:06:33Z")
Always a sticky situation. Do whatever makes you happier. If money makes you more happy than said girl, then do it. If not, do the best you can with the cards you are dealt. ---
**Author:** ![Cavi\_Mike](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/cavi_mike/32/5217_2.png) [@Cavi\_Mike](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Cavi_Mike)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:08pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/3 "2009-09-24T14:08:02Z")
Get rid of her. /thread ---
**Author:** ![throwthestick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@throwthestick](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/throwthestick)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:08pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/4 "2009-09-24T14:08:28Z")
I would not wait around on account of a girl, get your career rolling and then worry about women. ---
**Author:** ![Avatar](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/avatar/32/5076_2.png) [@Avatar](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Avatar)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:09pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/5 "2009-09-24T14:09:32Z")
> [@Cavi Mike](#): > > Get rid of her. > > /thread This. Money \> Hoes Always… ---
**Author:** ![Twizted](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/twizted/32/7206_2.png) [@Twizted](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Twizted)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:13pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/6 "2009-09-24T14:13:30Z")
> [@throwthestick](#): > > I would not wait around on account of a girl, get your career rolling and then worry about women. im not even saying career. im saying if he just wanted 2 move ---
**Author:** ![PureXTC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/purextc/32/5223_2.png) [@PureXTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/PureXTC)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:16pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/7 "2009-09-24T14:16:32Z")
Don’t listen to these people. They are talking out of their ass or they have never had a GF or they are teenagers. You already know what youre going to do. So do it. ---
**Author:** ![MOBOOST4U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f4b2a3/32.png) [@MOBOOST4U](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/MOBOOST4U)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:20pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/8 "2009-09-24T14:20:44Z")
How old is he? ---
**Author:** ![Cavi\_Mike](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/cavi_mike/32/5217_2.png) [@Cavi\_Mike](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Cavi_Mike)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:20pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/9 "2009-09-24T14:20:47Z")
I’m actually in a long distance relationship right now, she lives in Albany, I met her in New York. I prefer it this way because being around the same person every day gets on my nerves so please don’t tell me about relationships, I’ve been in all of them. if you want your girl to be around but she won’t move now, she’s not going to move ever. You didn’t start this relationship as a long distance relationship so don’t expect it to become one. If you want to try, that’s fair, but expect it to not work. ---
**Author:** ![Twizted](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/twizted/32/7206_2.png) [@Twizted](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Twizted)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:21pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/10 "2009-09-24T14:21:54Z")
well he dont know whats he is going to do thats the thing. Should he leave her knowing that if he choose to move or has to that she wont go with him. Its like why date from now till whenever if shes not going to be there with him in the end. knowing the end result would not be a arguement. just moving ---
**Author:** ![theblue](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/theblue/32/5074_2.png) [@theblue](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/theblue)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:22pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/11 "2009-09-24T14:22:07Z")
the answer depends on the age and education level of the people involved. ---
**Author:** ![walter](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/walter/32/7202_2.png) [@walter](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/walter)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:23pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/12 "2009-09-24T14:23:22Z")
I suggest you stop being such a fggt. ---
**Author:** ![ghost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f04885/32.png) [@ghost](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ghost)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:34pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/13 "2009-09-24T14:34:54Z")
Not enough info… where’s “here” and where’s “there”? what kind of professions are we talking about? If she really “loved” you, she would go with you… even if it’s to a mud hut in Somalia. Especially given that, like you said, you both could get higher paying jobs… If it were the other way around, would you follow her? ---
**Author:** ![Motocrossx23](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/motocrossx23/32/5120_2.png) [@Motocrossx23](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Motocrossx23)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:40pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/14 "2009-09-24T14:40:17Z")
Lol, I know a certain Floridian that should chime in this thread… ---
**Author:** ![burnt\_toast](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/burnt_toast/32/7518_2.png) [@burnt\_toast](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/burnt_toast)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 2:48pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/15 "2009-09-24T14:48:13Z")
> [@ghost](#): > > Not enough info… where’s “here” and where’s “there”? what kind of professions are we talking about? > > If she really “loved” you, she would go with you… even if it’s to a mud hut in Somalia. > > Especially given that, like you said, you both could get higher paying jobs… > > **If it were the other way around, would you follow her?** i was going to say this. If you’re willing to leave her to go for the job, then do you really love her? And in reality, if you’re already questioning whether you should stay or not, then you have doubt. Doubt is a pretty fast growing infection, especially if this is just a hypothetical question. Don’t forget, sometimes being around friends and family is much more important than moving across the country on the behalf of money. If that is her view, then you have someone who could be considered “wholesome”, rather than “materialistic”. meh ---
**Author:** ![ILC](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/ilc/32/5337_2.png) [@ILC](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ILC)\ **Post date:** [September 24, 2009, 3:00pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/16 "2009-09-24T15:00:33Z")
this sounds soooooo hypoethetical. ---
**Author:** ![Dan\_B](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/dan_b/32/5396_2.png) [@Dan\_B](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Dan_B)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2009, 7:33am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/17 "2009-09-25T07:33:20Z")
Sounds like someone needs a donkey punch. ---
**Author:** ![JayS](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/jays/32/15375_2.png) [@JayS](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/JayS)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2009, 8:31am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/18 "2009-09-25T08:31:37Z")
> [@theblue](#): > > the answer depends on the age and education level of the people involved. truth ---
**Author:** ![Willybeen](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/willybeen/32/7351_2.png) [@Willybeen](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Willybeen)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2009, 8:42am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/19 "2009-09-25T08:42:11Z")
> [@Motocrossx23](#): > > Lol, I know a certain Floridian that should chime in this thread… fuck. im keeping quiet. I still havent figured this out. I definitely have some regrets about the way I went about htings though. ---
**Author:** ![Willybeen](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/willybeen/32/7351_2.png) [@Willybeen](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Willybeen)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2009, 8:45am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984/20 "2009-09-25T08:45:16Z")
Honestly this is the situation i faced but i was supported in my decision and i neglected to see that it truly made her a mess… now i’m living with the repercussions and now I dont know what my next move will be. to be blunt, ive been a mess and i wish i handled things differently from the day i got the job offer… It kind of just fell into my lap and then the excitement overtook me with joy, I assumed like you that she wanted to be with me enough that shed follow and that when she said she wanted to be somewhere warmer, florida would be sufficient… I never talked about it enough and I never really listened… Like i said… tons of regrets. Hindsight… 20/20. [Next page](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/quick-question/73984.md?page=2)