# Restraining order?

**URL:** https://forums.speedlife.net/t/restraining-order/194195
**Category:** PittSpeed Off Topic
**Created:** [December 13, 2007, 3:09pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/restraining-order/194195 "2007-12-13T15:09:57Z")
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### Author: ![spektator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e19adc/32.png) [@spektator](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/spektator)
#### Post date: [December 13, 2007, 3:43pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/restraining-order/194195/9 "2007-12-13T15:43:20Z")

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> [@Access to a Hangar for car photos?](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/access-to-a-hangar-for-car-photos/33896/10):
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> Yes, I am positive this will generate quite a few smart ass comments (unless this isn’t Pittspeed anymore) but maybe I can get just a little bit of feedback.
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> I’m up in the air about how to deal with this. I am having a problem with an ex-boyfriend of my girlfriend’s getting in contact with her more often that I would care to worry about…
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> There hasn’t been a word spoken to him in over a year but he will still randomly call, send her an e-mail, etc. Even after she has said numerous times to leave her alone.
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> I don’t know how I should react? Should i call him and let him know what’s up? I don’t wanna put myself on a record for being threatening or harrassing, but flat out ignoring it isn’t solving the problem.
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> I don’t know about a restraining order because he has never shown up anywhere, and he lives in Cleveland, we’re in Pittsburgh. She does fear he may come down here becasue he is a few crayons short of a box.
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> Any ideas on how I can get the point across to him in the most legit way without causing problems on myself?

no luck on restraining orders…honestly dont waist the courts and your time.

its also not for you to get involved. and you go to any police dept. and they will tell you the same thing.

change the email, and if the phone thing is getting that bad…opt to change that too.

keep records!!! If need be, the police (if you know someone) can file a harassment charge. They can contact this person and tell them what the deal is, and if it does not stop then further action will be taken…but again not much they can do bc police DO NOT deal with civil matters. but if you report it, and its on record, if something were to ever happen, god forbid, you have proof of his actions.

is this a case where it bothers you that he still stays in contact…or that it bothers her?

dont get your self all bunched up over some guy in a completely diff state!!! if its been a year or more since theyve even seen each other…what are you worried about?

Also, he can text, email, call all he wants…no disrespect but it only becomes a problem when the gf answers it…just tell her to ignore it. If she pursues then it looks like she still cares.

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