# Wedding Crew: Need Help/Advice **URL:** \ **Category:** NYSpeed Off Topic\ **Created:** [July 23, 2012, 6:57am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779 "2012-07-23T06:57:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Beck](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/beck/32/28683_2.png) [@Beck](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Beck)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 6:57am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/1 "2012-07-23T06:57:00Z")
My buddy is having a wedding this August. They are keeping it to a minimum of close friends and family only. Think “backyard, intimate” setting. Well, back when I was dating my girlfriend, the bride in questions was somewhat close to her and they made the decision to invite both of us seperately. They’ve asked their guests to please not bring dates unless they are serious about them. Well, I kicked my girlfriend out and we are no longer talking. My ex and the bride haven’t spoken in months and my ex ditched out on her wedding shower yesterday. I need some opinions or ideas on how the bride can politefully un-invite my ex. (With as little drama as possible). :tup: ---
**Author:** ![boardjnky4](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/96bed5/32.png) [@boardjnky4](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/boardjnky4)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 7:00am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/2 "2012-07-23T07:00:33Z")
She should simply call her and say “I think it’s best if you don’t come to the wedding”. I thought this thread was going to be about you tying the knot ---
**Author:** ![Beck](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/beck/32/28683_2.png) [@Beck](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Beck)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 7:02am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/3 "2012-07-23T07:02:52Z")
> [@boardjnky4](#): > > She should simply call her and say “I think it’s best if you don’t come to the wedding”. > > I thought this thread was going to be about you tying the knot Absoultely not. About a year ago I was 70% of the way there. Then I woke up, smartened up and managed to get back to \<10% in the past 2 months. ---
**Author:** ![ProgRocker](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/progrocker/32/5434_2.png) [@ProgRocker](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/ProgRocker)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 7:04am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/4 "2012-07-23T07:04:31Z")
First off…there are Vaginas involved so drama must immediately follow. Is your ex planning on going? Who is closer with your ex at this point, the bride or you? I’d simply say, we are trying keep the wedding to family and very close friends only. Even though we invited you prior to recent events we’d feel it’d be in best interest of all parties that you not attend. Something like that. At the end of the day the Bride has the last word and the final say. She could simply say Fuck off I hate you bitch. That then becomes a temporary law ---
**Author:** ![Anonymity](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/anonymity/32/7215_2.png) [@Anonymity](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Anonymity)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 7:51am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/5 "2012-07-23T07:51:42Z")
> [@There's a million reasons why I want a g/f. And just two reasons why I don't...](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/theres-a-million-reasons-why-i-want-a-g-f-and-just-two-reasons-why-i-dont/13554/6): > > Dude bros. > > This is why im schwaggin all the 14-15 year olds, and your still looking for a wifey. Do you really care Adam? just let us know what happens. ---
**Author:** ![Fry](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/fry/32/7284_2.png) [@Fry](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Fry)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 8:04am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/6 "2012-07-23T08:04:45Z")
A. Not your problem. B. Sounds like ex won’t show anyway. Why would they un-invite her anyway? That’s trashy. If she actually shows everyone can act like big kids. ---
**Author:** ![bing](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/bing/32/7211_2.png) [@bing](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/bing)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 11:11am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/7 "2012-07-23T11:11:04Z")
you want the bride to un-invite your ex to her wedding??? and you don’t want any drama??? ---
**Author:** ![copperlegend](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/copperlegend/32/7445_2.png) [@copperlegend](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/copperlegend)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 11:18am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/8 "2012-07-23T11:18:40Z")
It sounds like the bride doesn’t want her there either… and if it were me, she’d be getting a phone call telling her not to come. Of course there will be drama, but at least it won’t be at the wedding, unless she’s really psycho. ---
**Author:** ![focusinprogress](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/focusinprogress/32/7227_2.png) [@focusinprogress](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/focusinprogress)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 11:26am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/9 "2012-07-23T11:26:24Z")
> [@copperlegend](#): > > It sounds like the bride doesn’t want her there either… and if it were me, she’d be getting a phone call telling her not to come. Of course there will be drama, but at least it won’t be at the wedding, unless she’s really psycho. she’s a female…they’re ALL psycho…just some less than others. ---
**Author:** ![MOBOOST4U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f4b2a3/32.png) [@MOBOOST4U](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/MOBOOST4U)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 11:36am UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/10 "2012-07-23T11:36:17Z")
I thought this thread was going to revolve around beck asking for personal wedding advice… Thank god I was wrong. I was thinking the Mayans could have actually been right for the first time. ---
**Author:** ![MaximaSE98](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/maximase98/32/7600_2.png) [@MaximaSE98](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/MaximaSE98)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 12:04pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/11 "2012-07-23T12:04:36Z")
> [@boardjnky4](#): > > She should simply call her and say “I think it’s best if you don’t come to the wedding”. > > I thought this thread was going to be about you tying the knot sounds like your ex prolly wont show anyway…but if the bride doesn’t want her there now she needs to call and tell her, but be polite about it ---
**Author:** ![copperlegend](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/copperlegend/32/7445_2.png) [@copperlegend](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/copperlegend)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 1:35pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/12 "2012-07-23T13:35:57Z")
> [@focusinprogress](#): > > she’s a female…they’re ALL psycho…just some less than others. Sadly, I’ll agree. I think it’s a package deal with the 2 X chromosomes us females have 😕 ---
**Author:** ![focusinprogress](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/focusinprogress/32/7227_2.png) [@focusinprogress](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/focusinprogress)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 2:03pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/13 "2012-07-23T14:03:15Z")
> [@copperlegend](#): > > Sadly, I’ll agree. I think it’s a package deal with the 2 X chromosomes us females have 😕 haha, yeah…I’ve got a few experiences worthy of writing in a book…which lead to some of my “theories on women” that I enjoy sharing over beers once in a while haha. ---
**Author:** ![Joe](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/joe/32/7219_2.png) [@Joe](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Joe)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 2:25pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/14 "2012-07-23T14:25:58Z")
Congrats on coming to your senses! ---
**Author:** ![Beck](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/beck/32/28683_2.png) [@Beck](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Beck)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 2:36pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/15 "2012-07-23T14:36:35Z")
> [@bing](#): > > you want the bride to un-invite your ex to her wedding??? > > and you don’t want any drama??? No, I don’t care what she does. The bride was asking me how to properly un-invite her…so I came here. ---
**Author:** ![1QIKZ](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex034/user_avatar/forums.speedlife.net/1qikz/32/6112_2.png) [@1QIKZ](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/1QIKZ)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 3:00pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/16 "2012-07-23T15:00:15Z")
> [@Fry](#): > > A. Not your problem. > B. Sounds like ex won’t show anyway. > > Why would they un-invite her anyway? That’s trashy. If she actually shows everyone can act like big kids. This^. If she does show up, is she gonna punch you in the chicklets? Need the preface to the story. Missing the first three chapters makes for hard reading. ---
**Author:** ![Hass](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/51bf81/32.png) [@Hass](https://forums.speedlife.net/u/Hass)\ **Post date:** [July 23, 2012, 3:50pm UTC](https://forums.speedlife.net/t/wedding-crew-need-help-advice/224779/17 "2012-07-23T15:50:45Z")
> [@Beck](#): > > No, I don’t care what she does. The bride was asking me how to properly un-invite her…so I came here. Have her tell your ex that there were some problems… and there’s no longer a wedding. Or tell her the wedding is at a different location. Or have your friend confess to your ex that she’s secretly a lesbian and wants to elope with her. Have a bouncer at the door, and make sure she’s not on the guest list. Bouncers are cheap, can probably get a guy from craigslist to do it for some beers.