I realize that (at least it sounds like) you didnt have anything to do with it, and I am not asking you to bring him back.
What I am getting at is if you think that someone can be warned or banned for backing down from an offensive comment, instead of “playing along” and throwing back an offensive comment at the offender. Then that if completely fucked up and wrong. If your given an elevated power over the rest of us, and you think that way I am scared. lol