seperate lives is bad, seperate interests is good…no one should want to marry themself. One of the things or marriage is completing yourself with the mate you choose. if you pick someone exactly like yourself your not gonna fill in the gaps. You don’t wanna pick a complete opposite either cause then the honeymoon is over you have two people that really don’t got shit in common. As far as sex, not being on the same page is bad, thats something that should just flow like water. The most important point to all of this is common sense. this is mostly common sense, theres no right or wrong answer cause everyone is different.
very well stated cutty. My husband and I have different interests, doesn’t mean we have separate lives. I like car shit, he plays golf. He does go to events with me occasionally, and I am tryin to learn to swing a club decently, but by no means will this mean we are doing the same thing all the time. Like 77rednecktruck said different relationships need different things, Doug and I need time apart to do our “thing”. If they intend to have a decent marriage, they need to set these guidelines before getting married, this way there are no surprises.
And yes, sex is very impt in relationships, you have to be on the same level on that one or there will be problems down the road. 
yes, making an attempt to participate in their interests is a good thing. that doesn;t mean a lady should go learn to shoot a gun so she can hang out with the husband on a hunting trip, thats his time, but some like learning to paly golf to do something fun together is cool.
here’s another spin on the sex thing. if you are fucking your wife/husband, or having sex with your wife/husband… you missed the whole point of it. You gotta make love but that doesn’t mean it has to be all emo, its can be crazy too. you fuck a ho, have sex with a girl friend and make love to a wife
So True
OK… here’s my 2 cents…
Before marriage and in the early days of marriage… SEX is all the time. Can’t have breakfast lunch or dinner with out SEX…
Then you have kids… it slows a little… then anothe r kid and it slows a little more… 3 kids… yikes… sex is hard to make time for. The important thing is that SEX is like a porn movie when you get time to have it. If she is worried about him losing respect for her then maybe she is not comfortable with some of the things they are doing suring sex and that is the real issue. If I had the energy after dealing with the kids and working all day… I’d be banging all night long.
The living seperate lives… We have our finances completely seperate. My money is my money and his money is his money. However, for the most part, 99% of the time, our social lives are one. We go everywhere together. We even grocery shop together. I rarely go somewhere without him. This works for us. The nice thing about having the finances seperated is we do not fight over money.
If she wants to get married and then run her own life and not include her husband… He will find someone who will include him and she will be divorced. Also, and this is probably a shitty thing to say, if she is not putting out enough and he is not being fulfilled… he MAY find someone to fulfill his needs. If she only puts out once per week, but performs like a porn star, he will probably be fulfilled. Men are visual, and physical, they don’t really care alot about respect… they just want to bang like bunnies… hahahahha.
This is just the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard… She is playing “hard-to-get”. meaning, that she feels she needs to withhold sex from him because she thinks that if she gives it up all the time then he doesn’t have to “earn” anything, he’s already gotten it all. She wants him to EARN the right to have sex with her. Most fucking retarded thing I’ve ever heard of.
I will 100% agree with newchic on the money part!!! KEEP THEM SEPARATE! You eliminate 99% of the fights about money this way!
awesome u guys are being a lot of help keep it comming.
I agree about the money
i cant help on the marriage thing but i know a good relationship is someone that i can fuck with and will fuck with me back… (kinda like joke around with) sex is a good thing. and someone that isnt financially screwed from the beginning is huge. dont care if they have little money. but big debt is a huge red flag.
and about the seperate lives thingy… go out with different friends but meet up at the end of the night and have crazy sex… thats what i pretty much do with the girl that i am “seeing”
Seems like keeping money separate would be difficult with house payments, shit for the house, etc. But if it works, it works!
If I didn’t make the amount of money I make it would not be possible… Before I had this job we each had specific bills to pay. He paid bills 1, 2 and 3… I paid bills 4,5 and 6… These were split based on fairness. he paid those bills and I paid the others and we never argued about it. Now I just pay most things. He is in charge of groceries and his cell phone.
if there pictures send them to me!!! :bigok:
damn ill take that deal in a minute!
sugar momma
just kididng i know urodad bust his ass off and is a good dad
he earns his luxuries… and it gives me peace of mind…
He is an awesome Dad.
simply put marriage is just a ceremony to show people you love each other.
I show my girlfriend by putting a roof over her head and food in her belly every day.
that shows you care for her well being but doesn’t nessisarily mean you love her. i mean i’m sure you do love her but love is way more than food and shelter.
no there isn’t any pictures! Sheesh! 
you guys are horrible. :bowrofl:
Jeff95ta,
Anyways yeah the seperate bank account thing worked pretty well. Just split up what bills are coming out of what account. Me and Jenn did it that way whe we were together and it was fine. It was also easier in the aspect of busy lives. If Jenn was out and spent say 200 bucks out of the account grocery shopping and I had to go get tires that day on the truck, I didn’t have to worry about how much was in there.
Then once a week usually or if we were going to buy somthing big we would balance out money so seach other could see what has been going on.