There is a happy ratio of spring rates to sway bar stiffness. Comparing sway bars with other local people won’t really help unless you have the same springs.
Your effective theoretical roll center will move toward the stiffer sway bar. So, if you want the car to rotate around the front, add stiffness to the front. As the rule, if you want it to move the rotating axis toward the rear, stiffen up the rear. Keep in mind that roll centers are dynamic, turn dependent. The characteristics of a the car (weight distribution, driven wheels ect…) can’t be completely compensated for. My STI handles pretty darn neutral with stock springs and shocks, using Whiteline adjustable sways on the stiffest settings.
Also, how you drive matters. If you throw yourself into the turns too hard, no suspension will help you 