so…me and my ex…we broke up around a week ago… we have been together for about a year and we have seen each other every day we possibly can…the longest we have went without seeing each other was 3 days…when i was out of town for a race. And the thing is…we both left each other cuz of the fighting. it was horrible and almost everyday. We would fight about the stupidest things and it would turn out to get very ugly. The thing is, is we are both still very attracted to each other. 2 days after we broke we began to have sex agian…it was very good. :hitit: But we knew we couldnt be together cuz we had so many differences. Im not even going to get into it. but tonight she went to a friends house and they went to some party…and after the party my ex was going to come over to sleep over. Well it turns out her friend picked her up and when they got there, there was a bunch of coke heads so my ex calls me to pick her up cuz shes scared and doesnt want to be there…me a little upset that she got her self into this situation and she is about a half hour away… i tell her to see if she can get a ride so shes a little closer to me…she doesnt even want to try and she starts yellin at me cuz i wont help her when she needs help. I finaly get there to pick her up and she is all bitchy becuase i made a “big deal” out of coming to get her…which i did not…i just asked if she could get a ride a little closer from a sober person.
we get back to my place and we start arguing becuase i was out with my friends and a few of their girlfriends…ya know…just sitting around. She gets pissed cuz 2 of my friends g/f’s rode in my car. (i know stupid right) This escalates to me telling her to leave and her freaking out because she can’t trust me and i hang out with all these girls(keep in mind we are broken up…and these girls are my good friends girlfriends…and my friends are also there as well) I get overly angry at her and tell her to leave my fucking house.
Now, i know this is the end…we can’t even hang out without being at each others throats. My question to you guys is…how the fuck do i get over her. it sucks becuase i am still mad attracted to her…i still want her…and yes i love the girl.
But this is not healthy at all i cant seem to be around her with out blowing a fuse becuase she pisses me off soo god danm bad.
I cant be that guy and instantly start seeing other girls…becuase being with another girl just makes me want my ex even more. ya i know. fucked up.
Please help me out guys…give me pointers…im so confused iwant to hang myself.
Suck it up and realize it’s the end, distance yourself and don’t run into her so you remind yourself. There’s no trick to it dude, if shit doesn’t work out then move on.
You sound young. That’s not an insult, just realize that when you’re young you tend to get attached too easily. You should be playng the field a lot more, rather than getting so attached to one girl. That’s my $.02. Tell her to have a coke and a smile and be gone with it.
Can you say fuck buddy? LOL, J/J. Now what I would do is cut off all ties to her. Phone #, email, pictures, everything that reminds you of her, and get rid of it. She seems pretty crazy after yelling at you for no reason like that so thats why I would keep the “SILENCE IS GOLDEN” routine going. After a couple weeks of no contact with her you’ll think to you self wow, she really sucked and isn’t worth my damn time. Also, KEEP YOURSELF socially occupied with friends, and or other girls. Oh and trust me she’s going to still call you but you must be strong my brother, don’t give in to the vagina. I promise you if you don’t talk to her it will work in your favor. GOOD LUCK BUDDY. :tup:
honestly if you WANT it to be over… or feel that it has to be… stop talkin to her… its just the way you have to deal with it… space yourself from her… dont talk to her… dont run into her… or if you wanna try to make it work… then dont do those things… either way you need to make your mind up %100 and then stick to your guns…
makin up your mind is easier said than done… i know this
kind of close on with the break up thing… but not really…
open yourself up and look for other options… when you find that other option … everything else won’t matter thats how us men are…
alcohol like above is a HORRIBLE idea…
i was completely in love, I got deployed, and i was going to buy the ring for her when i got back… turns out when i got back she cheated on me… i failed everyone one of my classes, drank nightly by myself… believe drinking is the worst i dea ever…
your best bet is to just hang out with friends… the memory will fade… and someone else will come your way
try being single for just a little bit. and while doing so…make yourself happy. Cause if you can’t be happy by yourself…you aren’t going to be happy with someone else, in the equation.
