Fascinating excerpt on what it's like to grow up rich.

Worth the read.

It’s hard to comprehend what it’s like to grow up like that.

It’s shit. Granted we weren’t as flashy like that, but replace everything immaterial in your life with something material, remove all of its value, and convince yourself that being surrounded by worthless baubles makes you happy- there’s the key difference there for the inevitable “LOL I’D SURE BE HAPPY IN A PRIVATE JET” comments, we’re hunter-gatherers at heart and the pursuit will always be more rewarding than the meal.

Replace all of your friends with gimme-gimmes. If they aren’t, their families are. You go to hang out with them and their uncle comes along. He educates you on his business idea and you compare it to everyone else’s. Your friend is visibly embarrassed and won’t speak to you again, but that doesn’t have much of an impact because you’ve gone through so many in the past year alone that you’ve made a game of guessing what they’re going to say. If they don’t have an uncle, it will be their business idea and all hell will break loose if you don’t believe in a fourteen year-old’s vision for a nightclub on. a. zeppelin. mate.

Replace the women you meet with gold diggers. Gold diggers are different from gimme-gimmes because gold diggers aren’t bought by object, only by status. They’ve fetishised money and caste to a religious level and if you don’t bring them both their eyes shut off and their exit will be marked with such a profound 180 in personality that you’ll incrementally lose the ability to trust people. Either you’ll give up and accept hollow relationships with women who love your name but don’t know the person behind it or you’ll take to dating crazy women, as they’re rubbish at bluffing.
Replace parents with staff and parenting with bribes. Congrats, you have someone washing your clothes and cooking your food. They’re not allowed to look at you or speak with you unless it’s in a tone that’s incredibly demeaning toward themselves. They wouldn’t want to anyway because they too know they’re cooking and cleaning for you and they hate that. They didn’t want to grow up to have that job, but they do and their best response is to take it out on you. You’ll overcompensate, cook fucking feasts before you hit age ten just to say “you don’t need to do this for me”, but if they don’t they’ll be punished so they do. You’re left with five mums and five dads, none of which would bat an eye if you were to choke on the sandwich they made for you even though you’ve made it as clear as you can that you too can and would like to make a sandwich if they wouldn’t keep locking the kitchen doors.

You can go anywhere in the world and see nothing at all. Travel is a hotel room, and the only thing separating Paris from Beirut is the kitschy shit on the walls. If you go outside, you risk being kidnapped. That’s not paranoia, that’s a thing. It’s a thing you actually have to worry about because someone who isn’t you has made you a target of people you don’t know so that they can feel good about their own choices in life. If you do manage to get away from the hotel, every single person you meet sees you as a foreigner no matter where you are or what language you’re speaking. Again, Paris, Beirut, your own city. You are different and they will let you know this in more ways than Disney has dalmatians.
Life is meaningless. You can be anything you want or nothing at all. There’s no challenge, there’s no game, there’s no "if I do this and this and this I’ll have the biggest damn boat EVER inadecade ". If you want a boat, you buy a boat. If you want to be a doctor, you become a doctor. If you want to suck dad’s money teat, drink your fill and you’ll become whatever he wanted you to become when he planned your birth for the explicit purpose of carrying on his name and his business and has made this very clear in his only real interactions with you.

But if you want to be anything but what he wants you to be or something equally prestigious, god help you. Be a doctor but no hospital will take you if you go into public medicine. Psychology is fine but if you work with crazy people you’ll be disowned. Animals, lovely. Work with cute ones and have someone under you to clean up after them because if they shit you’ll find them dead the next morning.

Only have an abstract view of family, of worth, of ethics, and of normalcy. Hesitate before you say anything to anyone who isn’t of the same background because at best you’ll come off as either a compulsive liar or nutter, and at worst as someone different. Consider every action from a dozen different angles before you undertake it because on some level your brain doesn’t quite understand the idea of consequence and you don’t know if something is wildly risky or just fun.

Keep a spare change of clothing in your backpack and duck behind a tree every time you’re out of sight from your house. Change your accent, it’s as telling as anything. Change your vocabulary, your interests, your hair, your name if you can pull it off. Walk through the field to get to the council homes to get to the shoddy street to get to the better street to get to the school, even though you’d otherwise just walk down the street to the school from your own house. If “friends” follow you home, you’ll be outed the next day and have to take another year of boarding school because they’ll make your life hell unless given time to forget you.
Escape your family, escape your childhood, escape your country, escape you. You’re still branded for life and anyone who is the least bit perceptive can smell you from a mile away. Have your failed relationships because you wanted love and she wanted a steady cheque, your failed friendships because you wanted acceptance and they wanted insurance, and your failed life because no matter what you end up doing the voice in the back of your mind says “Do it well, do it shit, you’re covered.”

Break out entirely, burn every bridge you’ve ever crossed, sweep that one girl who’s just warped enough to not get blood on her teeth off her feet, run away to a city where you can guarantee no one will ever recognise you, and maybe just maybe you’ll have a place and a person and a purpose just tangible enough to let you breathe for the first time in twenty-one years and think, “What now?”

I feel like I want to explain the opposite side. Where you come from poverty but managed to go somewhere with it.

Growing up in poverty is shit. Granted everyone knows that, but poverty is rarely rewarding and it ruins most people. If you’re one of the harder working, lucky, individuals then you may find your background humbling, but that’s unlikely. To most of us who have come from poverty into wealth, our backgrounds are just a burden and a tool.

Yet some of the things you say about being rich remind me of how it is to be poor. While you can travel anywhere and experience nothing, I couldn’t travel anywhere and still experience nothing. When I was at home, I stared at the same blank 4 walls daily, and when I went into the world I was a foreigner to the majority of the population. You see, being poor has a stigma. Everyone else with a basic level of perception can tell you’re poor. You have an aura of being lower than them.

Similarly you mention that relationships and the like become abstract and meaningless. When you’re poor it is the same. Those gold diggers and gimme gimmes? They’re the people us poor people also grow up with. The exact same people. They don’t just do it to you. The second you show any level of wealth as a poor person they will be there as a “mate” or friend to suck it all away. You just got your welfare or benefits? Bam, they’re around for a beer, or to go out, or something similar. You earned some money via a back alley odd job or won a small lottery? Let’s go celebrate with champagne at the pub!. While it may be tiny amounts you earned or won, it will go very fast with these people around. Not only do they ask you out, no, they will enter your home and eat the little food you have, but when you visit them they have none. “I forgot to shop”. No they didn’t. They either never had any to begin with, or they hid it from you. Poor people are very cunning at saving every little bit of wealth. It gets very petty very quickly and becomes a series of mind games to see who you can fuck over the most. Family, friends, colleagues, whatever. You, and the rest of your poor family and friends, are in a game of trying to take the most from each other while losing the least. Everyone will be very diligent about debt, tabs and claiming benefits, credit and the like, but will never remember their own debts.

Then we have the issue of future. You say you must take a specific job or type of job? So must poor people. Why you ask? Crabs in a Bucket. If you aspire to be more than them they will either drag you down by peer pressure because of jealousy, or they will drain every penny you earn because they are vultures. Either way they will beat you down and force you back to their level. You must either be one of them, or not. You cannot be on their level while earning enough to be “normal”.

Let’s discuss “normal” now. When you’re poor as a child you cannot have everything the other children have. A car? Good luck. The newest games console? Those are for rich kids. Regular food? Going out for a meal? Trips to the cinema? Christmas presents? All for rich kids. A coat in the winter? Sometimes. New shoes when the soles of your old ones fall through? Perhaps, but you’ll have to spend a few weeks with your feet getting wet in negative (Celcius) temperatures. As you get older you realise the importance of stealing. You have to steal to get by. What do you steal? Anything, everything. From who? Everyone. Of course, most aren’t daring enough to steal something big, but anything from a few pounds on a friends table, to a keyboard from your school/ workplace, to a pair of shoes from a shop will do. Want a coke? Too expensive, let’s just steal it from Woolworths. “Does anyone need a drink? I’m just gonna steal some from that place”. Yes, this was a normal statement between my friends when we were younger.

Everybody sees this. The fact you are poor is clear. You are different, and everyone who isn’t poor can tell. This is a major point, so I’m mentioning it again. The feeling that you are less, that you are worthless and that other people are looking down on your is very very real. When you’re much younger it is a different story. The middle class/ working class kids don’t understand why you’re so poor. Why do you only have one parent? Where is your car? Why don’t you have a PC? You don’t have a maid? As a child you repeat the mantra “That’s for rich people only”, further cementing your differences.

As for ethics and normalcy? You don’t have either if you’re in poverty. “Normal” is what rich people are. “Rich people” is anyone who can afford basic living standards. Ethics are obviously out of the window. It’s a competitive environment where you’re all lions trying to tear the throats out of each other. You all know it, but you must cooperate to survive, but if you can just get a little bit more by being uncooperative, you will.
Now, I mentioned I left poverty? To be normal now hasn’t solved the problems my childhood wrought on me. I’m still very competitive, I see everything in terms of gain and loss, people are still very abstract, relationships are tenuous and my culture does not match the people I am working with, and yet because of my success I can no longer return to my past people and integrate with them. This leaves me between a rock and a hard place. I cannot integrate with the “normal” people, nor the people I grew up with. Remember you said that you feel like a foreigner? I do more now than ever, and similarly I only socialise with the international community, further isolating me from my home culture. If I grew up normally I’d be a typical xenophobe.

Also, you sound British. I am too. I have to change my accent when I go from place to place, people from my home consider me “posh” if I speak as I would away from them, and “normal” people consider me “chavvy” if I speak as I would at home. Poverty is shit. Growing up poor is shit, and becoming middle class after doesn’t undo it. You’re left with the scars of being poor, one of those being your family that you left behind because of their constant begging for money.

The good news is that the competitiveness and lack of ethics and care for others has allowed me to be very practical in how I deal with people, and allowed me to further excel where others would not. There are some upsides, but I’d rather have had a real childhood and become a well rounded adult than a power hungry, money grabbing, borderline sociopath that I have become. Perhaps one day of my life I’ll be able to sit back and think “I’ve succeeded”, but until then I will keep doing whatever it takes to get there.

When it was compared to having a cheat code to a video game you just got that makes the game boring.

Pretty much exactly that. It’s having a god mode cheat enabled where every hit is a kill and every kill gives 999.999 points, but at the same time the person standing behind you says that you have to kill more baddies than they did and they spent their entire life holding down the fire button with a piece of tape.

I’m not sure to be honest. My dad’s family is somewhere in the lower nine digits, my mother’s family is three different families and all of them are probably in the upper eights. Mind you though that almost all of that is wrapped up in things, so as far as liquid worth goes they just sort of have a blank cheque mentality where money is either something that is or something that isn’t.
The big disconnect is in the kind of money. My dad’s family belongs to a scene where you’re measured by your power, sort of like that old Roman adage that you’re only rich if you can buy an army. That sort of hyper-competitive dynastic environment is way different from being a famous musician.

There really is a jump between the 7s/8s/9s/0s. I’ve a few friends from millionaire families, they’re more or less indistinguishable from my middle class friends. One is somewhere in the 8s, she’s kind of… pocket rich? Thinks like 9s but something off about her life. My one 0s friend, her world is absurd even to me. I invited her to come stay with me for a spell a few years ago and she said “Oh sure, I’ll just buy a house nearby.”

Source:
http://www.reddit.com/r/rage/comments/12uigr/rich_kids_of_instagram_im_pretty_well_off_but/c6ykr35

Enjoy the read.

that was actually a great read.

Wow, very interesting.
Still wish I was rich btw… haha

Forgot there is more…

Well, here’s my more-or-less plan of the next few years. And mind you that all of this is self-funded from the money I’ve personally earned, as I’ve distanced myself from my family and won’t see a penny of theirs for a while:

  • Find a girl who is okay with not being cemented to one spot. That’s a lot more difficult than it sounds because there are plenty of people who want to play Whitman and by my own experience almost all of them end up having a nervous breakdown when they’re three weeks removed from Burger King. Kind, artistic, demented as all hell, a child in the sense that Rousseau stayed a child, and cosmopolitan enough that no matter where we end up she’ll appreciate the beauty of it. Knock on wood, I think I’ve found this girl.

  • Travel. I’m early twenties and won’t stay that way forever. There are two continents I haven’t been to and one that I’ve only seen half of, so my backpack is on standby mode. Next month is Canada, then Argentina, then back to university, then the summer either driving across North America or jumping across the Mediterranean, maybe Germany after that, and ideally I’d like to knock out East Asia come 2014 and South America in 2015.

  • A small home with history it in Marseille, France, a small garden behind it and if I can find one a Karmann Ghia or DS in front of it, something cheap and fun and easy to repair. On one wall of this house is my library, on the other is my violin and cello, there’s a piano in the corner, and the bed is under a skylight with some really good drugs spent listening to Schoenberg’s Transfigured Night and picking out all the parts he obviously wrote with stoners in mind.

  • Study. Lots of study. Formally, medicine, architecture, studio art. Informally, anything I can get my hands on. I want to be able to teach anything to anyone in a way they’ll click with in a way that would make Paul Erdos moist. Reading and writing and making something practical of all that information.

  • A teeny tiny boat. The sea is the closest we can come to touching god and there’s something very comforting about being at the mercy of such a powerful thing.

  • Soviet military doctrine. Burn every bridge that I’ve not cast in steel, change my name to something I feel comfortable wearing, fly a flag I’ll feel comfortable standing under. Scorched earth total and absolute for everything prior to my independence, and what I build in its place will make the Witness Protection Programme look like kids in a sandbox.

    If your point will be that money makes these things possible, by all means you’re completely right. Wealth, however, doesn’t, and wealth is the thing I’d sooner drown my kids in a bathtub than subject them to. I’ve nothing against money other than that it’s a silly thing that doesn’t make sense to me, only the culture that surrounds it and the attitudes it encourages.

Your kids will have a very different take on your wealth. One of my best friends was the daughter of a very successful lawyer. Her dad was very modest, she drove a BMW coupe on sidewalks to see if people would jump out of the way.
Raise them as musicians and volunteers.

Do you think you would feel some fufillment if you ended up being more successful than your parents?
Depends on how you define success. In business, there’s no way in hell I could outpace my dad. I could continue his company, but I’m much too much a socialist to know a damned thing about running a company.
Non-monetary contribution is going to be my legacy. I want to give art and music to people who otherwise wouldn’t have it. There’s a lot more impact there than in what he does.
how different is life from the tv show Gossip Girl
Never seen it. What’s that like?

And there is still another interesting one I remember that I’m trying to find.

rich is by definition an opinion from someone with less value looking up.

find the values you love about yourself, and you will always find another person who is richer or poorer than you.

Thus making it not worth comparing in the first place, which negates the concept of “rich”.

GREAT read. I think I pointed a few of those points out in that Instagram thread.

I can relate to the poor posts, my family came from nothing… literally. Living in my grandparents basement age the ripe age of 1 with my Mom and Dad. (Half the basement actually, the other half was occupied by my Uncle)

Pops said he didn’t want this for his family so he started his Well Company out of the trunk of his old Chevette 32 years ago.

Here we are today. Both my parents are small business owners with no handouts from anyone.

They instilled values into me from a young age that I am forever greatfull for and will never forget. I remember something he told me a long ass time ago. I don’t know the exact verbage but it was something like “If you really work as HARD as you physically can at something… not half ass it… it’s near impossible not to be successful. If you aren’t going to be the best at something, then do something else”. Something like that. I never forgot it.

Well company? I.E. Drilling Water Wells?

He subcontracts the actual drilling portion, but he installs water systems (pumps) and lines etc that run into the home. He can drill points however.

Uses Hawk Drilling for the actual wells.

What’s his company? My dad is a water well / equiptment rep, he probably knows him. Bill and Janice from hawk are two of my dads best friends

Yup. Being rich as fuck may be worth getting kidnapped.

Steve’s Well Pump Repair. Steve Bakerian. He knows Bill and Janice well. (no pun intended)

Totally worth it.
I’d hire Liam Neeson to find me.

Was this written by Batman? I feel like this guy is Batman.

This didn’t surprise me at all. When I was a youngin, my Grandfather bought a house in a “rich area”. There was a kid in that community my age and we played together. It was like the prince and the pauper.

I recently spent a weekend among the likes of a direct blood family member of a man who was once “Reputed to be the wealthiest person in the world at the time of his death”

She too left it all behind , and has found a happiness of her own. One that couldn’t come from the depths of family wealth.

While I wont name her, a once very popular TV series was based on her family.

I bring this up as it fits the OP’s post, and is not something many of us ever put much time into thinking bout.

I’ll be damned but I can’t find the excerpt I recalled from the link, maybe somebody can help me out here.

The kid talked about running away one day and leaving no evidence behind and taking nothing with him, getting a fake ID and all and traveling to somewhere in Romaina? And within a week there was a well dressed bouncer at his hostel telling him “it’s time to come home” after his dad tracked him down.

On the other hand, this whole thing is just one mans opinion and there are plenty of rich kids that live well balanced live and have appreciation for what they’ve got.

Many millionaires decided to follow the Bill Gates principle and leave a healthy yet proportionally small fortune/inheritance to their kids (Bill Gates case is $10,000,000) as they believe it’s a more balanced way to get through live, with a boost rather than a shortcut to the final means.

Guys awesome

Please tell me it’s Debbie from Debbie does Dallas.

LOL close, Dallas was correct.

I suppose theres a chance Debbie has bloodline.

A good friend of mine works for Wilzig Racing. He says the owner is very humble as well as all of his friends. He’s met a ton of famous people and says that a lot of them don’t look down upon common people.

No idea why I’m posting this. Oh well…