she ditched you, fuck her. If she isn’t crawling back appolagizing then get your kid back and kick her in the cooter. Don’t forget she cheats. What has she done that would make you think she’s changed?
she ditched you, fuck her. If she isn’t crawling back appolagizing then get your kid back and kick her in the cooter. Don’t forget she cheats. What has she done that would make you think she’s changed?
It is really just hard… I mean we have been together for almost 5 year`s. and to just let her go its just hard, You all proble understand. It is really takeing its toll on me. I do love her and him very much still. i would do anything in the world that i could to get them both back but. when she is listening to other people ( aka trouble makers) insted of beliveing her own husband. Its kind of messed up.
She is petrofied of her parents she is afraid her parents will disown her. If she comes back to me. After all her parents have done to her and she is afraid of that. Honestly i am not that bad of a guy at all. Some of the pittspeed people have met me in person and can tell you i am not that bad of a guy.To deserve all of this.
She begged and cryed for me to give her a nother chanse after she cheated on me. And i am a true gentleman. I cant stand to see a women cry. So i gave her a nother chanse.
I have told her as well as many other people have told her. She is over the age of 18 years old. She is legally a adult she does not got to be afraid of her parents. At all i mean i will admit i will do favors for my family when they need something but being afraid of them for something like this NEVER!!.
For instance like i have said in earlyer post. MY WIFes name is crystal, She works at a nurseing home called St. Ann`s in greensburg. Right beside the greensburg police station. I whent up to see her on Monday morning at 6 am i stayed up all night to make sure i would be awake to go and see her after it being almost a year already. And she tells me. Some of the people she works with are telling her not to come back to me… people that dont even know me. I just love the way people always got to judge me as a bad guy before they even know who i am.
I really just wish she would stop this crap and be. A trust worthy and loyal i guess you could say wife. I mean i know some of are fellow pittspeed members are married. And some have kids`s. Some of the people may agre and some may not but. The point ism Me and my wife talk But all i hear is excuse after excuse about comeing back to me. 
I miss her and my son both so much the last picture i got in my cell phone of my son is the day he was born. that was 5/4/05.
BTW ALL I WOULD LIKE TO THANK YOU ALL PERSONALY. FOR KEEPING THIS TOPIC ON TOPIC. AND FOR NOT POKEING FUN AT ME FOR THIS, THIS DOES MEAN A LOT TO ME AND HAS BEEN TEARING ME APART EVER SINCE SHE RAN OUT ON ME.
Thank you, Gary
OK, here’s the deal.
WHY are people that she works with telling her not to come back to you? Because she is painting a BAD picture of you. Whether or not she admits it, NO ONE will just say “Oh no don’t go back to him and don’t let him see his son” for no reason. She is telling people things about you, things that are making them say that type of stuff.
I’m going to send you a PM.
Yea, she beat me to it…
For example: Do you think I’m a bad person? We have never met- but I guarentee if PS made a thread about how terrible a person I was you would have a biased opinion based on that…
She is telling her friends (or whatever they are) that you are not a good dad, husband, friend or what have you…
My only advice is to get in that child’s life because if what you say about an abusive house is true, you are going to want that child to trust you more than them and tell you if they are doing something to him in the future- when he grows a little older. Besides- why would you just roll over dead and not be actively trying to get the child out of that kind of situation?
I think I’m missing something.
HAHA… that’s great! 
but in all seriousness - there are some real douchebags on PS, but i wouldnt expect anyone to laugh at you for something like this…
If i were you, i wouldn’t go to the lawyet yet… i agree, there may come a time where that is necessary, but if you really love the girl, and want to be with her, getting a lawyer is sealing you fate. I dont know if some of the ppl telling you to just get rid of her and get a lawyer understand that… If you really truly love her, and want to be, along with your son, everything to her again, then you need to go after that. I, at times, have dealt with a lot of shit in my relationship, but there’s one thing that keeps us together - i love her more than life… and if this is how you feel, then fuck the lawyer… keep talking to her and let her know that you want her and your son to once again fill that hole in your life. Also, I’d say be sure to let her know that you’re there for her and will wait for her, no matter how long it takes (even tho that may not be true in ur case - i can’t say)… at her age, girls hate getting pushed or rushed into something… it scares the shit outta them, making them stall and be even more confused
i wish you the best of luck man! i really hope things work out for you and you get your girl and son back… i can’t even imagine the kind of pain you feel without your boy.
yeah man she is making you look like an asshole some way or another. i think the best bet for you would be to get your son back joint custody at least and get a divorce. sorry man but you guys were kinda young when you got together / married and she probably wants to see whats out there. women are a dime a dozen man kick her to the curb and worry about your son a nice stepmother will come around some day.
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Why did she leave? Not to be rude, but I bet there is more to the story than what you are telling. I agree with what everyone else said, she is probably not very mature at age 20, especially having an abusive past. Maybe you did something to upset her, if that’s the case, you might want to apologize and tell her your willing to try to work things out. Maybe she could stay with a different relative or friend until then?
but in all seriousness - there are some real douchebags on PS, but i wouldnt expect anyone to laugh at you for something like this…
If i were you, i wouldn’t go to the lawyet yet… i agree, there may come a time where that is necessary, but if you really love the girl, and want to be with her, getting a lawyer is sealing you fate. I dont know if some of the ppl telling you to just get rid of her and get a lawyer understand that… If you really truly love her, and want to be, along with your son, everything to her again, then you need to go after that. I, at times, have dealt with a lot of shit in my relationship, but there’s one thing that keeps us together - i love her more than life… and if this is how you feel, then fuck the lawyer… keep talking to her and let her know that you want her and your son to once again fill that hole in your life. Also, I’d say be sure to let her know that you’re there for her and will wait for her, no matter how long it takes (even tho that may not be true in ur case - i can’t say)… at her age, girls hate getting pushed or rushed into something… it scares the shit outta them, making them stall and be even more confusedi wish you the best of luck man! i really hope things work out for you and you get your girl and son back… i can’t even imagine the kind of pain you feel without your boy.
As much as i try. And god knows i try. I have told her many many times that i want to sit down and work are problems out. But she will not hear of it. On my birthday May 9th. I got a phone call from her after not talking to her for about 2 months. I would call her at least 10 - 15 times a day and leave voice mails, text all that shit. and never get a answer or a call back. May 9th i got a call from her suposable. I was suppost to be cheating at the norwin hills car show she said her 1 friend supposable seen me there with a women. I told her i was not there with anyone and that her friend (I know who said it) Was lieing. I talked to the 1 girl that is friends with the girl that told my wife i was cheating on her at the show. She told me she was sitting in the same room as the girl that told my wife that. and that she is trying to brake me and my wife up.
So i had the girl that told me all of this call my wife and explain that to her. So she did.
I have never cheated on her. Or never will. I am loyal like that. But she has cheated on me 2 times before. with the same guy. I have forgiven her both times sometimes i really kick my self for doing that. But like a lot of you saying. Its just really hard for me to let her go… After being together for so long, Everything i have done for her. and this is the thanks i get for it. I mean hell i love her and my son more then anything in the world. And i would do anything for them. But when i try to get them to come home all i hear is excuse after excuse. i can never get a answer its either. My parents dont allow me to come back to you. <— I still cant figure that 1 out she is a adult its time for her to make her own decisions. Or i am suppost to be cheating on her. <— Ya know what they say the cheaters always blame us that arnt. Or the people i work with are telling me i should not come back to you. But when i tell her that the people she works with dont know me and they need to butt the fuck out she gets all offensive on me.
Kind of hard when i think about it. All around me all my friends are getting married, got familys. They never have to put up with any kind of shit like this. But then i look at my life and relize. I got nothing.
I feel i have missed out on so much of my sons life. I have told her many many many times i want to see my son. I always get a excuse after a excuse. Oh i am busy. or He is not feeling good. Lie after lie after lie is all i get.
I have missed 1 year of my sons life. His 1st xmas, Easter, Him crawling, Walking, Talking. Everything
I got pics of when i was holding him in the hospital. The day he was born. and from that day to the day i seen a picture of my son ( sunday) i just cant belive how much he has changed.
Anyways i am trying to get to i miss them both and love them both more then i do anything else in this world. And would give anything to get them back.
Why did she leave? Not to be rude, but I bet there is more to the story than what you are telling. I agree with what everyone else said, she is probably not very mature at age 20, especially having an abusive past. Maybe you did something to upset her, if that’s the case, you might want to apologize and tell her your willing to try to work things out. Maybe she could stay with a different relative or friend until then?
She left because. She started acuseing me of cheating on her. When i would be at work. I told her she can trust me i am not the cheating type i was cheated on. Before and i would never ever do that to anyone. I tryed to get her to relize that. Thats when she started to listen to other people besides me. Her friends telling her complete lie`s about me. I told her i could prove that i am not doing what she said i am doing. i told her i was very happy with are marrage and would not cheat. I to this day would take 1 of those lie detecter test to prove to her that i never cheated.
i cold heartly agree with you!
yea… that really sucks man… sounds like you have one hell of a thing on your hands… i dont know if i could ever deal with cheating… you’re probably stronger than me in that sense
like i said… good luck - the point may come where a lawyer is your last choice… hopefully for you, it doesnt come to tha tpoint
Alright bro. Get you game face on. You don’t love this bitch. You can’t love something you don’t know. You know she likes to hide stuff from you. You don’t even know the real her. Your like alot of guys that are completely loyal and love with a huge heart. Especially if you have been threw a hard upbringing, you think taking a girl out of that and loving each other will make each of your lives better. So your in balls deep and she’s been witholding. She probably can’t trust. So for her to keep her deep seeded walls up, she has to run when she gets too close. You can’t feed those actions. That will keep it alive. If there is any hope for her you have to show some tough love. Say, I love you. Your my wife and the mother of our child. I need you in my life, but I will NOT accept you being half assed. If your going to continue as you have, then I’ll take my son back BITCH! Then say, I hope you glad your turning out like your parents. Your worthless to me.
Minus the getting married and having a kid part, I have been threw something suprising similar. I do love my ex bitch. Will till I die. But I guess I actually loved her mask. Have some self respect and don’t chace a cheating ass bitch like a scared little puppy dog.
truth … as much as it hurts kick her to the curb and move on.
Alright bro. Get you game face on. You don’t love this bitch. You can’t love something you don’t know. You know she likes to hide stuff from you. You don’t even know the real her.
Ok now i am very confused. The thing is man i really do love her as well as my son and i would do anything in the world for them. Also what you mena i dont know? and tha ti dont know her real name ? we have been married for 2 years ?
Okay, I’m sorry, but I can’t take it anymore. A couple things Viper…
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PLEASE proofread your typing! If you think you are confused, you should see the majority of us trying to read your thread/post. Seriously. Slow down and type it a little better. We want to help you, but its a real pain in the ass to have to re-read everything 95 times.
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He didn’t say anything about not knowing her name. He’s saying that you don’t know the real her. As in, she lies and does shit that you don’t know about, therefore shes acting in a way that isn’t the real her.
This girl is 20 years old. I understand that you love her and all, but she is just a KID man. I mean, hell, im 23 and I’m just a kid. There is no way in hell I’m ready for a committed, married relationship and a child. Add this to the fact that I grew up in a good family structure with parents that really supported me, but gave me tough love. This girl got none of that. She probably has the emotional maturity of a 12 year old. You are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
Get your kid back and cut your losses with her for the time being. Hopefully she matures/grows up in the next 5 years and she can be a part of the kids life.
Think of how bad she is fucking with you. Just imagine what she is doing to the kid?