Well as most of you already know. My wife ran out on me 1 year ago and took are newborn son with her at the time… So we have been talking on the phone and she tells me where she works at so i go up to visit her. We have been talking about working things out. I have been wanting to get back together with her since the day she ran out on me. Between that year and now. People have been telling her lie after lie about me. My favorate lie someone has told her so far was . I go to the irwin car show on saturdays to cheat on her!!!. Anyways i am not the type of person to do that at all. After all she has cheated on me before and i had to find out of her bestfriend about it. Anyways back on topic…
Me being mr fucking nice guy i took her out of a abusive house hold 3 years ago. Where here dad beat the liveing shit out of her. And took her paychecks.
Insted of me and my wife sitting down like 2 fucking adults. And working are problems out she has to listen to lies. AND SUPOSABLE HER PARENTS WILL NOT ALLOW HER TO COME HOME TO ME AND SHE IS 20 YEARS OLD!!! I told her and many other people have told her its her life. she is a adult now.
So today i go up to see her at where she works at.She was talking to me like a human being i was like wow this is strange she is not yelling at me.
I will admit it. She showed me a picture of our son. And i like i will be getting made fun of for saying this but i started crying.
Then she told me people she works with are telling her not to come back to me i was like wtf? They dont even know me how can they be talking shit about me… So i was like WTF they want to start talking shit i will get peoples ass fired or hurt either 1 someones going for trying to butt into my marrage problems… So she starts the crying shit.
I REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY DO HATE MY LIFE…
The point to this story is…
DONT DO NICE THINGS FOR PEOPLE YOU CARE FOR IT WILL JUST COME BACK TO BITE YOU IN THE ASS LATER ON…
I completely understand. My wife took off last summer when I found out that she had been keeping a secret post office box, bank accounts and credit cards. She also had totally disregarded paying utility bills, the IRS and the mortgage for quite a few months. To say I was/am screwed was an understatement. I have no idea exactly how much money she made out with but it has to be substantial.
We were married for 12 years and I never saw it comming. She majored in business and finance and I let her handle all the bills and bank accounts. You can bet I’ll never let that mistake happen again.
In any event, when she took off I replaced her with another housecat. He’s better behaved, more cuddly and I know he’s not going to run off with my checkbook anytime soon.
So you two are still legally “married” but just seperated?
She’s being childish if she’s only listening to people that don’t even know you. At 20 she should be mature enough to realize that. Do you not see your son much? You should try to see him as much as possible.
At least someone understands. The hell i am going through right now with my life. HonestlY.
My wife works at a nurseing home in greensburg. Called St.ann`s when i whent up to see her she told me, The people that she works with are telling her not to come back to me and i lost it. I was like WTF they dont even fucking know me and they want to run there mouths.
She rather listen to the lies and bull shit that people are putting into her head. From people that dont even know me. That she has worked with for less them 4 months then listen to me. when we have been together for going on 5 years.
Its been 1 year on may 20th. That i have seen my son. She showed me a picture and like i said i lost it i am a 24 guy i never cry but honestly from the picture i got on my cell phone to that picture it just hit me so dam hard.
Well, I hate to kind of say it this way, but IF it ends up not working out, get a court order stating you have rights to see your son. I never got to see my dad since I was 7, I saw him a couple years back but it’s like we’re complete strangers, I don’t even have any initiative to see him.
So you two are still legally “married” but just seperated?
She’s being childish if she’s only listening to people that don’t even know you. At 20 she should be mature enough to realize that. Do you not see your son much? You should try to see him as much as possible.
Yea we are still legally married. And i still love her and miss her very much.
I agree with your. She is being very very childish at 20 years old. She is legaly a adult but is afraid of her parents. Rember she was liveing in a abusive envirement her dad use to beat the shit out of her. Her parents took her paychecks. I took her away from all of that 4 and a half years ago. where she didnt have to wory about getting hit or anything like that. We had a stupid ass fight and where does she return to. That house. I tryed to tell her me and her need to sit down and work out of problems like a married couple should.
and to answer your last part. I have not seen my son in 1 year. I got a tatoo of his face right over my heart. I finaly seen his picture tonight of what he looks like now.:crying: :crying:
I don’t know your financial situation but you need to hire an attorney. My dads corporate attorney suggested one to me that i have been using for custody/support hearings for 2.5 years. He is on the board of directors for the allegheny county judges association so he knows the judges…but you pay. He will get you your son atleast partial custody…not visitation crap. After a year he will get you full custody if you want it. Don’t let the kid slip away. Delete the filthbag from your mind and battle axe that bitch to the ground. Nothing more selfish than her keeping your son from you. Start a war bro. A lot of times once they get the hearing papers they will give you some custody w/ out even going to court so give it a shot. That should be your number one priority in life…fuck the girl.
I agree with ZEXaccord. This is a fight that you need to win. Get an attorney and go after her with guns blazing. My divorce attorney way suggested by me by two of my cousins. They are both attorneys and have used this guy for several divorces (one for one cousin, three for the other). When an attorney goes and hires another one to represent him you can bet your ass that the guy knows his stuff and mine does. He’s not cheap (about $150 an hour) but so far he’s done things that I didn’t think we could win. PM me if you want his name and number.
Fuck that gun for joint custody. My friend married a girl over having a child with her, of coarse they were going off and on for 5 years before hand. When she got pregnant, it fell apart after the kid was born. He filed and got joint custody. I wouldnt want my child with someone so impressionable. Nothing says shes going to run off to another state with your child.
150/hr would be a god send. Expect about a $1500 bill for one hearing but worth every penny. If you are paying support right now you know that by the time they are 18 you ill pay atleast $100,000 if you only pay 400 a month so a GOOD attorney is worht EVERY penny. Pay 800 a month a be looking at a quarter million dollars. You need to step up to the plate, grow some balls, and run the situation.
sorry to hear and i hope everything works out ok for you…However its not right that she wont let you see your own child. she had no right to just pick him up and pretty much say “you have no rule in his life”.
So, wait, you took her out of an abusive family when she was like 15 or 16 years old? I’m just trying to get your timeline straight.
Let’s be honest. Shes only 20 years old. I know plenty of 20 year old girls that can barely function in a college setting, where their biggest decision of the day is whether to drink Natty Ice at a frat house or Beast Ice at a house party. You’re asking this girl, whom obviously didn’t have a great upbringing so she probably wasn’t the most mature person to begin with, to make mature and inteligent decisions? I think that is probably asking a little much.
None the less, you have a right to see your son and I’d be damned if anyone kept me from my kid if I had one. Hopefully you can find some kind of amicable solution for both parties that will allow you to be an important and worthwhile part of your childs life.
