A long read but please read it if you want to give advice.
Having troubles with the lady and although I know what I SHOULD do, it’s good to hear it from other people sometimes. Usually I am the one with the advice but I guess it’s different from the inside.
I’ve been with my girl for about 9 months. Almost a year. It has had its ups and downs but this morning was really a kick in the junk. In the beggining of the relationship I openly told her that for awhile I might have some trust issues because of the last whore I dated for 5 years. So I asked her upfront to just be honest with me and if you ever want to do something that I might question just talk to me about it first. As long as people are open with me and you don’t give me a reason to doubt you, I won’t.
So anyway, she started this job at Lowe’s and made some friends. One of them is this kid, Justin. Total toolbag but w/e. I have no problems with my g/f having friends that are guys but right off the bat he would text her a million times a day, call her, AIM, blah blah blah. So I basically told my girlfriend I wasn’t comfortable with how often he feels the need to talk to her. So she told him and it stopped for awhile. Well recently, he started talking to her again. I did tell her it was ok, as I had met him and had confidence he wouldn’t break my trust.
Well the other day I was staying at her place and turned on her laptop to check my emails. They had an open IM convo on the desktop. I DID NOT read it becuase im trying to build trust. Well, she came over and was like, oh, can you close my AIM for me. So i did. The next series of events is really what made me question this faggot.
It was 8AM and she had to be to work by 9AM. She lives 5 mintues from me so she told me should would bring me home on her way to work. Well for some reason she wanted to bring me home right then, before she even got ready. This was out of place to me and made me kind of curious. It felt like she was trying to hide something on her laptop. And being that her convo with Justin was just there, that is what I thought it was about. So, this morning she left for work, I told her I would head out after awhile, (a little hung over), so I opened her laptop to check my emails, and the convo was up again. So I read it. Apparently this fucker has been talking to her, not like a friend, but like a girl he wants his dick in. Then half way down, I read the part that fucking pissed me off. They were trying to make plans to hang out around my schedule so that I wouldn’t know. There was nothing in the convo that made me think it had to do with cheating on me or not. Regardless, she lied to me. I asked her if he ever hit on her or asked to hang out and she looked right in my face and said no. What bothers me is that if they really are friends, why keep it secret from me? So I got up, went right into where she was working. I let her have it and told her basically that she is completely donet alking to the fuck and that we need to have a long convo when she gets home.
So I need to know what to do. Now my trust issues are going to be double fold with her, ill question everything she does now. It kills me that she lied to me, in a relationship its a huge deal. I have not once lied to her. And if I see Justin, I might beat him pretty badly. In MOST cases she would be gone as of right now, but there is something different about her I love. Maybe because shes the first girl that isn’t a clinger and we have a lot of fun when we are together. Irregardless I know what I should do, but should I?