I take it you are referring to your gf. As my father explained to me in going thru my own relationship issues lately is that women love to just think outloud. Men want to internally sort through things and the 2 sides clash. Realize she is only trying to help you but in a girly way which definetly pisses closed emotional guys off. Just say…I appreciate the help, but its something I have to sort out…if I need help I will ask.