I’m sure most of you will just get a laugh out of this, but if someone cares it’s worth a try.
I’m truly unhappy with my life. I’m recently single (like 5 days now), which has only compounded my issues. Being with her gave me a direction in life. We had plans for the future together and I truly loved her, so I was very happy with where my life was going, which I didn’t know where it was, but was fine as it wasen’t alone. Who knows why she left me, I’m not too concerned about that as I didn’t do anything wrong, but I’m more concerned with what I’m left with.
I’m 30 and not happy with my career, or being alone obviously. I’m at a crossroads. As an aviation mechanic/electrician, the job opp’s are very limited in NY. I can make big money leaving the state, but the idea of starting over socially sucks (and also being away from family/friends), I’ve had to do it before and never want to do it again.
So…as I lay here (which is all i’ve done for days, literally get out of bed and lay on the couch, force myself to eat and go to the gym), I ponder options. I’m open to going to school and trying a new career field, but I’ve got no idea where to start, or what I’d want to do. In a perfect world, I’d like to do something that holds normal hours, as I’ve worked nights for years in aviation for many years, which was fine when I was happily single, but I don’t see it helping if/when I find someone again. Plus aviation job security is sketchy at best, and the pay in NY blows for the most part. I’ve got very little bills, so I could just work some BS job and get by, but I’d like to do better for myself than that.
I guess it’s just kinda hitting me all at once. 4 months ago I didn’t have these concerns, but I don’t wanna be laying on this same couch and writing this same message in 10 years when I’m 40. I’ve got a lot of friends that think they want to be in my shoes. Only if they knew. Unhappy clown I guess…no amount of money fixes the feelings of being alone and lost.
I feel ya dude, I’m kinda goin through the same shit. Just recently found this chick I was crazy about, and I haven’t had or wanted that in years. She says she wants to be single, and while I respect her decision, it fucking sucks. I know what field I wanna get into, but not where I wanna go with it. I think its kind of natural to have these kinda thoughts as ya get a little older, and I really don’t have a solid answer for ya, other than your not alone dude lol.
SRS though, Travis, you know the shit I went through recently. I would say I went through the worst of it already but there are still those days where you have a hard time. You’ll move on in no time. You’ve got good friends around you man, now seriously, lets get fucked up
You need a vacation dude. Maybe find where your best career options would be in a nice place youre interested in and check it out. Just take a week or two and gtfo of this place.
Sorry to hear about your lousy change of circumstance. Only advice I can offer is I’ve delt with similar stuff not in the form of a girlfriend leaving me but other family stuff. So I understand what you mean when you say about being legitemetly unhappy with where your like is. Only thing I will say is eventually things will turn around and everything happens for a reason. As far as moving not moving I would imagine in certain state your skills would be in very high demand. On the going back to school note I wouldn’t recomend it given this economy. I have 2 bachelors degrees and still turn wrenches at a chevy dealer because the economy sucks and I haven’t found a decent career oriented job yet. just my 2 cents