The 3rd gear thing freaking sucks! I have the Accord V-6, which I believe has the same motor and it grinds into third ALL the time. Seriously makes me RAGE, but the wizard hasn’t fixed it yet. :hug
I have looked all over for a newer TL in a stick and they are unobtanium. Even the older body styles 04-08 are impossible to find in a stick, no one wants to drive a manual car anymore bc they are flipping lazy! Definitly LOVE the TL, especially the newer body styles. Good luck with the purchase, as everyone said- go drive both and see what you think.