Well this is what I got:
With the relay not connected to the plug
#1 is ground
#2 12V
#3 .68V
#4 nothing
#5 nothing
#6 nothing
Relay plugged in to plug
#1 ground
#2 10.9V
#3 quick .0# flicker and nothing
#4 nothing
#5 Nothing
#6 Nothing
The relay clicks on and off with ignition
So yeah… where is the main 30A fuse??? I looked at all the ones under the hood and in the underdash block and dont see anything poped.