So recently i moved in with my best friends brother who bought a house. Its a 3 bdrm house with just the 2 of us right now and he’s single and i have my girlfriend of 6 months on thursday.
Now my dilemma is, he just doesn’t pull his weight in buying food, he doesnt have a computer and nags me to use mine constantly. He recently got a DWI and lost his license. Now it seems like I’m suppose to suffer because of his dumbass drinking and driving and getting into an accident.
I understand it’s his house and all, but I pay my rent and I pay it on time. i shouldn’t have to buy him food, let him use my computer constantly and everything else that he tries to use me for.
Has anybody been in this situation before and can maybe help me out here? I don’t want to argue with him and I really don’t want to move out, but it’s almost to that point right now.
I’m in the opposite situation, I’m the owner and my roommates pay me rent. They never want to clean or buy anything that isn’t in their rooms because “I’m the owner.” Great, if you go rent an apartment your landlord isn’t going to be cleaning your kitchean and bathroom for you. It sucks.
Thats the thing. He expects me to help him renovate and build all this shit and I have no interest in doing that. If he wants to take it off my rent, fine. But he doesnt and he doesnt have a life, no girlfriend, no friends. He doesnt make an attempt to meet new people and have a life and just bugs my gf and i whenever we hang out.
We try to cook dinner, he sits at the table and talks until i ask him to leave us alone. He plays my xbox under my name that i pay for every month playing halo nonstop. i told him i was going to cancel xbox becuase i dont play anymore and he said we should cancel the internet then becuase i dont let him use my computer so he has no use for it anymore.
He is older than I am and it just pisses me off that he constantly tries to use me. Right now hes bugging me to use my computer so he can go online to look at light fixtures on home depot and talk to some skank with 3 kids on facebook that he is obsessed with.
If I get pissed about buying my own girlfriend food all the time, I’d never put up for someone eating my food when I’m not getting some sort of satisfying return on my investment. Then, he asks to use your computer as well? Tell him to use his unemployment money, go to techbargains.com and buy a $399 dell laptop. He can mooch off of your wireless internet all he wants… that doesn’t affect you.
You’re paying rent. Why should you have to take care of your land lord’s needs, unless it’s written in some sort of agreement in your lease terms.
Stop being an enabler by letting it happen. He clearly is acting co-dependant on your assets and property, but you’re also letting the behavior continue. You need to step up to him and tell him no since you are clearly not comfortable with it. You’ve really got to tell him “Listen, I’m not your wife I’m your roommate. You do not get to harrass me, ask me for stuff and think we’re best friends. You’ve got to take responsibility for your own actions and leave me and my girlfriend alone with this petty bullshit.”
Be honest, and tell him what you think with confidence. Don’t be a dick when you say it, just explain calmly what you think of the situation. Tell him if that he can’t handle it, and doesn’t want to be mature/professional about it, then you’re going to have to find a new place.
Honestly though, it sounds like you just moved in with the wrong person and might want to find other places to live.
THIS. I hate how much it costs me to live alone, but when I compare it to how much I hated having someone else in the house, I’m OK with the extra expense.
the thing is, I just got let go from my job and my rent is dirt cheap. I pay 250+ utilities which comes out to $400. Right now i cant afford to make the move.
I would love nothing more than to live on my own, but right now I just cant swing it and I’m backed in to a corner. I guess I just need to nut up and tell him whats going on. I have made comments that I thought he would have gotten the point, but i guess it hasn’t worked.
NYS Unemployment = up to $405/week. A WEEK. Does not compute.
My girlfriend got let go of her waitress job once and was getting $300/week and was making only $20k/yr! So, unless you worked at BK making minimum wage I’m sure that the unemployment insurance check will more than pay rent at your own place… and then some…
400-rent
100-cell phone
50- insurance
$550 for expenses leaves me with $330 left. I guess i could do it, but it would be very close and then I have to figure in the money that goes up for utilities on my own.
Co-dependant people think irrationally. He could have heard your comment and then the next time he asked, you caved… so, he didn’t take you seriously and you enabled him to keep asking.
You’re in a bad situation as living with this loser who has no gf or friends, he probably is treating you like his gf/wife. LOL