Should I??

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ok. heres what im debating at this moment:

Right now, I am a full time student at Robert Morris University. I just completed my first year there. I live at home and commute while attending school. This fall I will be starting my second year at RMU. I
have about 6 semester to go.

After completing my first year at RMU, I have one major problem.

Its very hard to get to know people while commuting to my school. I only spend a handful of hours on campus weekly and those hours are mostly sitting in class. Why does this matter? because I feel that I’m missing a part of the college experience. I want to go to parties, meet new people and general just have fun.

so my question is: Should I move onto campus even though I’m only a 5 minute drive from it?

now a few things to consider before you answer…

Im 23 years old and would more than likely be living with and near much younger people. This really doesn’t bother me because i look very young, probably younger than them, and i don’t really “act my age”. So i feel that it wouldn’t be a problem BUT im not 100 percent sure.

Im not bound to a full time job or even a part time job because i have a decent amount of money saved from when i did work full time. I do not have to balance school and work so im solely concentrating on school.

Since I am 23, I can apply for Financial AID as an independent and receive financial aid based solely on my income. This year I have an EFC of 0 so i should have the majority of my tuition, room & board and other expenses paid through free AID and loans.

now some of you might be thinking why at 23 would you consider this option?

My best friend ,of basically my whole life, recently met a girl, lost his mind by asking her to marry him after 4 months and little interest in our friendship anymore. The few other people I am/was close with have moved away for various reasons. so that left me without many real friends except for an EX girlfriend of mine.

So without many real friends I have lost much of my social life. Its a fairly big concern because i feel myself becoming mildly depressed and general bored with my life. I still have a few years of being fairly irresponsible while Im in school. So I want to enjoy them before school is over, a career is looming and my priorities drastically change.

so what do you think?

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Well here is my take on it:

If you really want to focus on school, then maybe you are fine where you are. Meaning, there are people out there that become consumed with the “college life” and forget why they are really there.

Next, I can totally relate to you… I have a very small list of close friends that I actually hang out with on a normal basis. And my best friend that lived here, also ran away to CA with her boyfriend after only 2 months of being together. Soooo, I understand how you feel. I personally feel that it is hard to meet people if you aren’t in school or working a job( that may bring you in contact with people your age ). But just being in school is opening your door to new friends…just try to meet people in your class.

Keep this in mind though… YOU HAVE THIS HOBBY–CARS, where there is this great website-- PITTSPEED.com…where there are lots of meets coming up and lots of opportunities to meet people with like interests. I’ll be your friend :wink:

PLEASE don’t be depressed…friends sometimes come and go but being depressed will not allow you to enjoy the NEW people that are possibly coming into your life.

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yeah man, no need to be depressed. I only see 2-3 of my good friends anymore. shit happens, people move on. Just make the best of what you have, talk to people in your class. That’s the majority of my friends now, classmates

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I go to RMU full time as well. If you wanna hang sometime feel free to hit me up! I don’t live on campus but mingle often.

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i did not read everything… but yes move on campus. It will change your life!

I lived on campus and my parents house was 5 minutes away!

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I appreciate the input.

I would not really say that im depressed at the moment but i know that keeping the current situation will lead to it. A similar situation happened to me 2 years or so ago. I lost my job which started the downward trend. I stopped attending community college and basically let myself go. I put on about 25 pounds of fat and lost my priorities in life. What pulled me out of it was getting myself into the gym again, registering for classes at RMU and having some friends there to encourage me. So im trying to remedy this situation before it leads to that again.

as far as using this site to meet people… Im very hesitant to attend functions because I carry a stigma with a lot of the members around here from years ago. I feel like a make a a few enemies with people that time away from here did not change. If you didnt know then search the user name “TwoForty”

i have already came to the conclusion that immersing myself in school related activities would be a great thing. Ive been throwing the idea of joining the intramural rugby team around for a while now.

The problem with making friends with classmates is that RMU is cliquish, in my opinion. I’m in a lot of lower level classes with the younger crowd of people and I have trouble relating to them sometimes. We will see though, Ill just try harder. haha

Jimmy

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dont listen to whitey his dad is brother is quick

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well…I know how the site can be…but the past is the past.

Either way I can understand where you are coming from.

My last piece of advice: Stop thinking so much about it and just take a chance with things…go out, come to an event, go play rugby. Whatever just do it.! :slight_smile:

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I appreciate your advice :slight_smile:

I’m still a very similar person to what I was back then ,when I did attend meets, Im just a slight bit more mature and a little less cocky. So I don’t know how my reception at events is going to be. Some members probably judged me before getting to know me but I know that stigma is still going to undoubtedly effect their opinion.

I have no one to go out with as of right now. When you hang out with your EX there is always a slight tension because of the past which kind of ruins the club, bar, going out to meet people scene.

I dont know. I wouldnt say that im whiny, depressed or thinking about the situation too much yet. I just finished my semester and I have 4 months with little to do ahead of me. I think that is what has this on my mind as much as it has been lately. Im not sure what the hell im going to do for the next 4 months. you can only wash and wax your car so many times. lol :slight_smile:

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Get a frigg’n FT job and bust your ass! That will take up a lot of time LOL. Take a summer class or two? Too much spare time = trouble

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ahhh…im not really motivated by money. Im not materialistic plus i have enough saved to get by for the time being. the only way i can see myself picking up a job is if its something i enjoyed doing. Last summer, I worked just to stay busy and was absolutely miserable by doing so. I attempted to be teach little kids fitness at a summer camp but i ended up turning into a babysitter!! it was awful!

i was thinking about summer classes but i never really looked into it! I wouldnt call this spare time because i dont have anything to consume most of the time to make it any “spare”. lol It sounds like such a stupid problem for a person to have because most people would love this situation. haha

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You need a mail order girlfriend

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maybe you should start an emo band and cry. j/k
And dont listen to heather she is a girl ,girls have no problems making friends.
I would however listen to whitey and move to cam-puss. i wish thats what i would have done, on the other hand i would probably been a drunk drop out and not be where i am today

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  1. Come to the pittspeed stuff… I hated you probably more then anyone, and of course we squashed that a while ago! Quit worrying about it!

  2. I am being truely honest when I say move on campus. It will not only help you make new friends but become a better well rounded person. RMU is very cliquish… commuter vs resident… But at the same time, many have made the conversion to resident without a problem. You would be living in the suites and no one really cares about your age.

  3. You can wash my cars this summer. K thanks!

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i dont know you but i know of all the shit that went on with you and other members i say just hell with them show up to meets whats the worst that happens the people who once hated you might have change and now they will be freinds with you

and the whole staying on campus thing im no help for that i never went a way to school i just lived at home while i went so i cant help you on what to do

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living on campus is the best. dont pass up the oppertunity!

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move on campus for reals… I go to ccac and Lived with 2 rmu students when I lived in a Town house in moon and hte parties are worth it lol.

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I never lived on campus, commuted 2 years while a full time student and really was too busy with 3 jobs to worry about partying/meeting people. Can’t say I ever wanted to hang out with some of the kids in my class but I wasn’t totally unsocial. It might be different for you being a little bit older. Just kept with a tight knit circle of a few people from high school and the car club. They kept me busy in my free time.

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I know what you mean about feeling like you’re missing out. It is a little different lifestyle, but I wouldn’t sweat it. If you want to be more involved, just do it. Living there has advantages, but it sounds like you could do way more stuff on campus than you do.

Don’t spend more than you have to in college, you don’t have a choice when you get older, it becomes impossible to “stop the bleeding.”

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+1 live on campus
3 years experience at pitt and this year I commute, OMG does it blow…you miss out on so much. Just dont go into debt paying for a place and food when parents can provide for free. Freshman year would have been the best time to live there though, but you still should.