**I need advice**

So here’s the situation.

I’m currently living with 3 other roomates here in FL. One of them is engaged, and the other 2 are 19 and 20. The 20 year old and the 19 year old live together. They’re both out tonight. I’ve been cleaning the house all evening, and as I was taking my roomate’s stuff (the 20 year old) to put it back in her room, I picked up a notebook and a card fell out. I picked up the card to find a picture of a man in an orange jumpsuit and “Colorado Department Of Corrections Inmate Information” across the top. Last week, she got a package from her mother, and a long letter who she claimed was from her “Cousin in jail, who she is the only one he has connections with.” I went to put the card back into the letter in the notebook pocket, and the letter was right there starting with, “My Love, My Dearest, My Sweetheart”. I didn’t read the whole thing, but long story short they’re apparently in a relationship. Now, my friend is overweight, and has low self-esteem but I didn’t think she was THIS hard up for a guy. In his letter he said she hasn’t been writing him back, when in her letter back to him (also in the notebook) she’s sending him letters with out address on it.

I looked online and found his record, which has 5 offenses on it starting in 1999. BTW, this dude is 30. Here’s the link to him:https://exdoc.state.co.us/inmate_locator/offender_detail.php?docno=95151#

It says that he might get paroled next year, and i’m scared that he might come here looking for her. I also feel that my and the other roomates safety is in danger if this guy does get out.

I want to confront her about it, but she takes things very personally and I know that since they aren’t home they’ll think I was snooping around through their stuff. I would straight up ask her about it, but I know she’ll get mad. My Mom suggested that I act like it is her cousin, but i’m worried that she’ll just keep feeding me crap and not be honest with me.

I don’t know how to approach this, because in her letter to him she says she wants to be with him when she’s already hooked up with 2 guys down here so far. Plus, she’s lying to him saying that she’s going to school and working 2 jobs when she just quit one and isn’t even in school.

So I need some real advice, no bull. What would you do? How would you approach her?

Is getting the fuck out of there an option? It doesn’t sound like a place I’d want to stick around. Chances are if shes “dating” an inmate, the other randoms she may or may not bring home are equally as sketch.

stfu and offer teh ganbang

Honestly, no. There’s nowhere else I can go. The guys she’s brought home so far are ones that aren’t sketchy. She works with one at her job, and the other is a close friend of a close friend of mine.

Zwarbyt…I’m looking for effective advice here, kay?

Tell her you were cleaning up her mess and you stumbled upon what you found. Then tell her just to be honest. That’s all you can do. No sense in beating around the bush if she’s communicating with a convicted felon.

You can’t move back with the parents?

And that wasn’t?

Seriously though, it doesn’t sound like a great place to live.

+1

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try to get her to be honest with you… if she’s already lying…chances are she will keep lying.

tough situation but i’d try to get out if at all possible…

Then you should call Dr. Phil instead of posting on a car forum.

In all seriousness, this is none of your business. without your address on the letter, this has no bearing on your life. If it makes you uncomfortable you should move. There really isn’t any excuse for your breach of her privacy, and if you bring it up you’re totally in the wrong.
Didn’t you have roommate drama before this?

He looks like a deadbeat, but none of his offenses are violent. He seems like just general scum. He doesn’t have your address. He’s in jail for the next 8 months. I wouldn’t be too worried.

Be honest with her about how you found out. Approach her with the attitude of caring and concern for her, not that you’re worried she’s going to bring a criminal to your place. She’ll be a lot more receptive that way. :tup:

why even bother dealing with it? thats just unwanted drama that your going to get pulled into i’d get out-

sounds like she’s being careful about not providing him with your address, are you planning to be living with these same people a year from now? A lot can change in a year, i wouldn’t even bother worrying about it at least not right now. If the time comes though time to fill out that concealed carry permit

Haha, Denton that may be the best line I’ve ever heard on this forum. Haha. 3 pointer there.

Ms cat.

If I was you in the same situation I would probably Pretend all was normal and try and save/ do things that will help you get out of there in 6 mos. or so.
I would bet $$$ that when he gets out he’s coming to FL.No if, ands, or buts,about it.If a girl is stupid enough to do this in the first place,she’ll have NO problem inviting him to stay with her/you when he gets out.
You could try talking to her, but doubt it will wona and probably just end up fighting.
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Denton,
Everyone else posts their drama on here, i’m sorry, i’m not allowed to?

Anyway, i’ve decided to keep quiet about it for now. Moving out is NOT an option at this point and time. If it does come to the point where he does get paroled and somehow gets out of Colorado (which i’m told, if you’re on Parole you can’t leave the state) and tries to visit here, then I will bring it up. If she refuses to cooperate, I will leave. As for right now, I talked with one of my close friends who is a cop and I honestly have nothing to worry about at this point and time. I’m not worried about it now, who knows, maybe she’ll get drunk one night and talk about it. Thanks for the effective advice from some.

Typo / Spelling Nazi to the rescue…

Folks, I think she misspelled one word which is making people think the address is NOT in the letter.

Just my assumption. One key over on the keyboard makes a big difference.

I’ve been waiting all year to use this:

The Admiral says…

Or you could just get her really drunk. And then convince her that she said something about it. However regardless it’s pretty shitty. Given the distance hopefully it won’t be an issue. Sounds like something straight out of a bad sitcom.