just a little food for thought
i had to go pack today, and the ex was there. walking out of that appartment today was the hardest thing i have ever done in my life… but its what i needed to do, and not what i wanted to do. (see my i’m free thread)
none of it is going to be easy
goodbye fuck?
no sir
but she is washing my whites
G. Love & Special Sauce - Free at Last
listen to that 
sorry to hear man, but it sounds like everyone else pretty much summed it up for ya. get outta the house and hang out with friends. you drive a pretty nice mazda 6 right? give that a good detailing and go for a long cruise somewhere to help clear your mind. i know it sucks and youre hurting, but its time to change your outlook on life back to focusing on you. best of luck man and again sorry to hear
if she just gets up one day and says, oh its over
shes cheating on you
do you just type the first thing that comes to your mind and hit enter, or do you actually consider once in a while what it’s like for someone to read the things you type?
no, it shows that shes been thinking it for just a lil while, and for some reason she just decided to blurt out what she wanted to say
ive done it before, and ive never cheated on a gf
i hope its not the truth, baldy’s a good guy, but its just from what ive seen
go ahead and flame away
Hey Jeff, sorry to hear about this. Me and my ex-fiance went through a similiar situation, except it was alot of yelling and drama. We are great friends still today, and we both agree that there is still that chance. If you truly love this girl, find out what the issue was and attack it. If you want to move on and go out and have a good time with some friends, Give me a call. Me and a bunch of people are going to some friends halloween parties tonight, so if you want to have a drunken good time 407-0657.
mike
Thanks for all the words guys. I have been trying to keep busy, doing the pile of laundry and ironing work shirts and such. I ended up calling her family, and they are all enraged that she did that. It felt good to have them on my side, as they truly enjoyed me being a part of their family.
They told me things about her I had never known before, which points more reasons why she acted so quickly on what has happened. At least I feel that there is hope…
Being 25 and her 19, she feels that she is going to regret things in college, that she can’t while I am there. Everyone I have talked to says it is because she is being pushed by her roommates to be free, to have fun with them. It does make sense too, that she goes out for a week and sees a different world of fun, bars, and all that. Then, she thinks of what we have, where we don’t do all of that. And the day after… we’re through. I wish she would stop jumping to conclusions about what she wants, and discuss them with me first. If she came to me explaining her situation, maybe it could have been a good breakup… instead, she went the selfish and immature route, and devastated me to make herself feel better about it, and make it easier for her.
I’m gonna go out tonight with a couple of old friends, and try to have some fun. It’ll be hard, because the biggest problem is me dwelling on it constantly. I am having a hard time eating, as I feel like I’m going to throw up with every bite. And I only got 2 hours of sleep, maybe less last night. And when I slept, they were nightmares about Erica and the break up.
I don’t care if someone said sarcastic comments in this thread. People can be assholes… I know, because I used to be one back in UBRF when it first started. I feel like a new person though, two+ years later. Life has made me grow up and mature. I have a career, I’m successful, and the only thing I lost is my fiance. Life will get back on track for me. I will be able to move on if I have to, but I would love it if we got back together. She was the perfect girl for me, no matter what has happened. She is allowed to be selfish and confused, she just doesn’t respond to it very well, and when it happens… she doesn’t realize how badly she hurts me. But, I made a promise to her when we got engaged, that I will be there for her regardless of the situation, through good and bad, for better or worse, till my ending day. No, we’re not married… but, that’s my view on my commitment to her.
Thanks for all of the advice guys! You definitely gave some good stuff. I may even call a couple of you on your offers to hang out. I’m game for meeting new people.
Wow :tup: :tup: That is the best attitude ever!! Especially the you being there for her. Good luck with whatever comes your way in the following weeks, and hopefully everything works out to whatever you need it to.
just keep your head up man
i really dont have much expirence with long term relationships but i know breakups are hard
surround yourself with friends. it helped me when me gf broke up with me.
ps: no ones said it yet BITCHES AINT SHIT
^
wow, it took 3 pages for it to come out
I too am in a situation more like Zer0dazE’s than Clean Baldy’s but that phrase, it’s not what I want, but what I NEED to do… My woman and I fought like we have never fought before last night and she toyed with the idea of walking away from it all. We haven’t spoken today but I think the right thing to do is just let it be and move on with my life. I haven’t figured out if it’s the correct course of action yet but hopefully this weekend will give me a chance to think and clear my head. Sorry for the thread highjack but it’s relevant to the subject at hand.
Way to go on your attitude Clean… You get a big :tup:
You know what sucks too. If your try Really hard to figure this out and make it work, It may push her away more. Then again, If you don’t try enough, You loose her for good also! So matter what It still stinks to have your heart crushed! I’m happy now with my wife. But I’m sure all of use have that love left in us for our past first love. I know I do. But truthfully, I’m glad I went through the sorrow of finding out what losing a love is like cause It educated me as to what aspect and do the next time this were to ever happen. Not saying this is the same for you. But hopefully you can make some advice out of my rambling! But again man, Sry for your loss. I know how it feels!
I sent her letters, and even gave her flowers and a card today. We havent spoken, but I wanted her to know that I care and I want to work things out. I got this as an email today:
Jeff,
I’m sorry that I have caused you such pain, but I know I’ll only cause you more when I tell you that I’m not getting back together with you. I’m not ready for us, or a serious relationship, or planning so much of my future. I want be able to figure out what I want, and I know that with you being here, that’s impossible. I’m sorry that you think things can just be worked out. I know better than that. We’re just two totally different people, at two totally different places, and I can see that. Thats really all I have to say…
Erica
Sucks for me… a year and a half later, she finds out she doesnt want a serious relationship… does that mean shes been faking it all this time, and just playing a game? Its so confusing. Now I’m bummed again… that hurt.
I think she was just confused. she hasn’t been out of high school for very long (you said she’s 19, right?) and hasn’t really experienced a lot of things outside of the high school life. Maybe she does eventually want a serious relationship, but right now, you just gotta let her do her own thing. The best thing for you to do is to giver her a few weeks to chill over this (you should chill too) and then start talking to her again, probably after the holidays are over. Just try to avoid relationship talk. she’ll have her head cleared up by then and she’ll know whether or not she wants you back, and she’ll let you know.
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also play hard to get
dont talk to her
if she calls ignore her,
act like you dont care any more
it always worked for me