Speaking for myself, Yes.
And I know the guy is going to try and bang her out. He has no other reason to befriend her, honestly.
In my last relationship I knew she would not go for it, and then those poor bastards get friend-zoned. And punished for ever.
Which is exactly what happened everytime. And why I never became jealous.
I never get jealous, it makes the entire relationship very unpleasing.
Saturday night, I let a guy buy my g/f drinks and try to pick her up while I was there laughing with her girlfriends. Her friends were amazed that I didn’t care at all. Meanwhile my g/f was trying to reach back and hold my hand because I wasn’t “rescuing” her haha.
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If your with a girl where the “good friend” could be an issue, it’s because the girl isn’t trustworthy.
I know that when I’m not around, guys try to pick up my g/f, it happens. w/e I trust her and know who she’ll be laying next to everynight. However, some guys get strung on by girls that just play them, and eventually the guy comes off as “crazy jealous” when it’s sometimes justified.
Either way, MOST guys, are overcontrolling with their g/f’s without reason. It’s sad really.
i can agree…
there is one douche bag that keeps texting my GF to hang out…and saying how gorgeous she is…and saying that she should be with him and not me…
at that point…its not so much jealousy i have…its more of me wanting to break this kids neck. 
See that would make me angry because it’s blatent disrespect. Fuck that. Now would this be a situation where it’s fair to ask the girl not to talk to him anymore?
this also becomes a touchy issue in relationships.
Thanks for teaching her that swirl thing, by the way. :highfive:
Anyhow…
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Well there’s obviously a different between the douche bag that doesn’t get that she has a boyfriend, and the dude who’s just known her since like, kindergarten and grew up with her.
But what I’m trying to solidify is…
If you’re friends with a girl, is it automatically true that in the back of your head, you want to bang her out?
Allow me to elaborate:
Question 1 depends on the guy and the girl. If I fucked her easily before I started dating her, then hell no I don’t trust it.
Question 2 depends on how often they are texting, how secretive she is about the texting, and what’s being said.
Knowing my own intentions, I don’t trust other guys at all. But depending on the girl I might trust her not to fuck him.
I don’t agree with that site. I have dude friends who I know don’t want to fuck me.
I’ve had a problem being the jealous type… but i learned that was because i had one long-ass relationship go sour because she ended up cheating on me 3 years in… (while i was in florida for a month taking care of my sick grandma…) I never let myself get over it or something.
That shit hurt, yadi-yadi-yah. I ended up taking it out on other relationships. Always comparing, worrying, saying “i will not go through that again” etc…
Pretty gay of me, but that’s why i’ve stayed single since december 07. You learn a lot about your priorities, about what you really want, and what really matters when you aren’t jumping from one girl to the next.
So, for now, I vote bacon… because of all the loves in my life, bacon has never let me down, and always keeps me guessing. <3
I’ll say yes. It’s not like you actively try, but if your a single guy, and the girl is hot, you tend to keep the good contact for future hook up possibilities.
There are few older friends that I have (who are good looking girls) that I wouldn’t fuck the shit out of if I was single.
They obviously have someone higher up the ladder already.
I didn’t get that far in. But good. I hope there is someone higher up on the ladder.
most of the time, yes… it’s just natural instinct
You can be friends with a girl you don’t want to bang out if you’re not attracted to her or have someone hotter, like Fry said. You usually cheat upward. If you’re attracted, then you would always sacrifice the friendship to commence hitting it. Exceptions being your girl’s friends, friends/relatives’ girls, cousins depending on what state you live in, etc.
In regards to the jealousy thing, I would likely make fun of him for trying so hard to hit it and being a “nice guy.” If you’re threatened by guys in the friend zone, you need to have more self-esteem. The last time that happened with an ex of mine I actually encouraged her to go out with him. Something along the lines of “oh yeah, you should totally go out with him, he can buy you flowers and take you out to dinner and all of that and I’ll meet you at midnight after he kisses you on the cheek and tells you what a great girl you are.” The only way hes ever getting a piece is if you break up and she’s so torn up that the pathetic “shoulder to cry on game” method works. Which from what I’ve seen, has about 1% effectiveness.
I think when you first meet a girl, the reason you want to keep talking to her is because of the great male instinct. You’re attracted to her. If you weren’t, the first impression would have been shitty and you wouldn’t pursue further contact.
BUT, i do believe that in time if you cross in to that mutual “friend-zone”, (kinda like she becomes your sister), it’s fully possible to have opposite sex friends and not want to bang them. I have a couple myself.
i guess it’s all about trust really. Only you know what you want to do or what your intentions are. It’s hard sometimes to look at a guy and a girl that have been best friends forever and not mistake their extreme comfort with each other as some sort of attraction.
GD Fry, way to nonconform.